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Practical Steps to Help You Improve Your Sleep

April 24, 2018 By Robyn 10 Comments

Hello again! It’s Cody. When I am working with clients, there are typically four main things we are continually checking in on and navigating through. Nutrition, movement, stress, and sleep. I often think clients are surprised when one of my first questions for them involves sleep.  The conversation usually goes something like this:

“What does sleep look like for you?”

Sometimes there is a pause and the client is like, “What did you say? Sleep?”

And I’m like, “Yes yes, sleep. Like what time do you go to bed at night?”

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I’ve learned there seems to be two kinds of people. Those who prioritize sleep and those who do not. My husband and I have ongoing conversations about this (JB looooves his sleep and always pushes for an early bedtime whereas I’m like, “just one more episode!”). So all you non bedtime people – I hear you. I have not always made sleep an importance in my life. I have always been a morning person and have been known to think I can survive on less sleep than most people. Whether this is true or not (probably not..) I learned my lesson. Sleep is just as important – and arguably more important – than nourishing your body with energy and nutrients, moving in a way that feels right, and managing your stress. Really because if you’re not sleeping that effects your appetite, movement typically isn’t helpful when your body is under stress from crappy sleep and managing stress and your mood is really really hard when you’re sleep deprived.

When people think of the term “healthy”- I don’t think they always consider sleep a crucial pillar.  When in fact getting proper sleep can help defend your body against disease, can help regulate your hormones, and it certainly effects your brain. I find it interesting that proper sleep ensures your mind is sharp and able to make good decisions.

Has anyone here ever felt like they were so tired they couldn’t think? Or after a few days of late nights you find yourself a little bit less “in control” of your choices. This can definitely trickle into your relationship with food and exercise. For example, in the early days of motherhood- I found myself functioning on such little sleep I really did feel like a walking zombie. As a result, I felt far from mindful in all aspects of my life. It felt like such effort to even think, so being mindful or “in tune” with my body was out the window.

Yes, there are seasons like this and your body can handle it and it’s okay if you are on Team No Sleep right now. Trust me, I’ve been there. You will survive and it is okay if you are not “in tune” with your body at the moment. Hang in there!

However, if you have the choice to prioritize sleep, it can be a really amazing thing. Do you have trouble falling asleep or getting up in the morning? Now that I have a baby, I must  prioritize my sleep. There is no more sleeping in on the weekends. No more “making up from the night before.” –> which I learned, doesn’t exist. You can’t make up for sleep debt down the road. Those days are over and it was necessary I adjust my habits. I also had to admit that I am not a super woman and I do, in fact, need adequate sleep. Perhaps you can relate and you’ve been wanting to improve your sleep habits but don’t know where to start? If that’s the case, maybe what I have learned will help you, too! These are just a few thoughts but really, I’d love to hear what helps you nourish your body with sleep. Any new ideas?

  1. Start your bedtime routine 30 minutes before you actually want to get in bed and try to get into bed around the same time each night. If you are like me, you inevitably get distracted or remember the tasks you have to do before you get in bed. For me it’s things like switching my laundry to the dryer so it doesn’t stay wet all night or making coffee so I’m happier in the morning. (caffeine = better mood) Or, maybe you forgot you have to put sheets on your bed. I’ve done all these things, so maybe my mistakes help you be successful with an early bedtime!
  2. Try to go to bed with a good attitude. It helps to not dread the morning. If you’re feeling stressed or anxious, try writing that all down in a journal before you hop into bed. The HeadSpace app also has quick 3-5 minute meditations to help you wind down and calm yourself. Or listen to some Beyoncé before you go to bed – whatever works! And when you get in bed earlier with enough time to get 8 hours of sleep, that means you get to wake up more on your own terms – not after 6 hours when you’re alarm is blaring.
  3. Don’t bring electronics into bed and do anything except read/sleep/sex in bed – your bed then starts to associate the bed with work vs rest and gets confused.
  4. Drink water all throughout the day, don’t be like me and realize you are thirsty 10 minutes before bed, making you chug your whole water bottle then later resulting in potty break wake ups all throughout the night. No fun when you are trying to get a full night of uninterrupted sleep.
  5. If you are hungry, get a snack. Don’t just ignore it because you are already in bed. Ignoring hunger only causes your blood sugar to be up and down and stresses your body. Same rule applies if you wake up in the middle of the night feeling hungry. Go to the kitchen and get a snack (and maybe that means you need to eat more during the day and/or have a bedtime snack – or a heartier snack – if you’re waking up hungry) Even if it means you’ll have to brush your teeth again. It’s worth it. Your body needs food when it says it’s hungry.
  6. Try stretching before you get in bed if you have been sitting a lot that day. Definitely doesn’t have to be intense or for a long period of time. I just find if I reach down and touch my toes before I hop in bed, my legs feel less restless. Can anyone relate?
  7. Create a relaxing bed time routine. I seem to fall asleep easier if I have just gotten out of a hot shower or bath.
  8. Essential oils. I recently ran out of my lavender essential oil but I looooved diffusing it in my room for good sleep!
  9. We love a good sound machine in our house. Our Dohm sound machine is in the baby’s room but we use this iPhone app in our bedroom and it works great.

When you are establishing a new routine, give yourself some grace, compassion and patience. It takes time and at first you have to take it one step at a time. Maybe start by making coffee the night before so it’s warm and ready to go as your alarm goes off in the morning. Start by setting a reminder on your phone to go make the coffee as you head to bed. Soon enough, you won’t need the reminder and it will become a nightly ritual. One step at a time you can develop habits that consistently help you prioritize your sleep. What are your personal sleep goals? We would love to hear!


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  1. Nina says

    April 24, 2018 at 6:27 am

    Hi there!

    I am an Rn and switched from the night shift to the day shift about to months ago. I am over the moon excited! I have been able to get back into my natural sleep routine of 9/930-530/6, but am having trouble staying asleep. I fall asleep hard and stay asleep for 5-6 hours, and then wake up periodically until it is “time to get up.” My fiancé teases me that I sleep too much, but it is a consistent pattern hat has been occurring nightly. I feel good, do not feel tired during the day, until 8pm typically. Do you thin this is something I should be worried about?

    Thank you!

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  2. Megan says

    April 24, 2018 at 8:32 am

    My priorities are very similar to yours as I have worked toward better sleeping success. Dial down electronics 30-60 minutes before bed, have a snack, wash my face/brush teeth, sit clothes out for the next day, write down any lingering thoughts and then get into bed. I pray and usually doze off very quickly. If hungry before I fall asleep or in the night I do get up and have another snack instead of letting it keep me awake. No reading, tv, phone, etc in bed.

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  3. Debbie Roshuk says

    April 24, 2018 at 10:42 am

    My season of life is past child raising and at the point of peri-menopause, so what absolutely helps me sleep, 100% without a doubt, is regular exercise – nothing crazy, but if I can do a hour when I get home from work (1/2 hr cardio and 1/2 hr strengthening/stretching exercises) I sleep like the 27 year old baby I raised : )

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  4. Trista Johnson says

    April 24, 2018 at 11:10 am

    Stretching feels SO good before bed and really makes a difference. I really notice when I don’t do it. Also, a little trick for the sound machine… mine broke and instead of getting a new one, I just play a white noise video on Youtube on my laptop at night! Works great 🙂 Probably the biggest struggle I have with sleep hygiene is electronics… I live alone and often watch shows in bed. Trying to work on that habit!

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  5. Liz says

    April 24, 2018 at 1:11 pm

    I too have a baby and have learned that I cannot make up for sleep or sleep in on the weekends. I feel like I am so busy working/momming all day so then I want to stay up and get all the things done, watch all the shows, or scroll insta because I don’t get to do that much during the day…but then I look down and it is 10:30! I have goals to stop bringing my phone to bed because this would really help me! I also like the idea of drinking water during the day so I am not chugging at night:) Thanks for another great post!

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  6. Nicole @ Laughing My Abs Off says

    April 24, 2018 at 7:19 pm

    These tips are amazing! Sleep is currently my Achilles heel; I KNOW I need way more than I’m getting, but this semester is pretty brutal and I often don’t have the option to go to bed at a decent hour just because of the sheer amount of homework. Nevertheless, I do already use some of these tips (like stretching! I thought it was just me, but I always do a quick spinal twist as soon as I get in bed, and it totally relaxes my tense muscles throughout my body)
    Totally agree with the hungry and thirsty tips; LOL I always slug water right before bed and then regret it. And journaling is a nightly practice, and is paramount for managing the bedtime anxieties. Thanks Cody!

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  7. Andrea says

    April 24, 2018 at 9:09 pm

    Great tips – the 30 mins before bed one is key for me. I set my fit bit to buzz on my wrist to remind me to start winding down. Although I think I’m realizing I need more like an hour … lol

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  8. Devon says

    April 24, 2018 at 9:36 pm

    Great tips! I really need to start prioritizing my sleep instead of my Netflix shows… I remember experimenting with never bringing my electronics to bed and I noticed how much easier it was to fall asleep. I also never thought about stretching before bed. I usually stretch after my workout in the morning, but I never thought about doing a couple of quick stretches before going to sleep, I can imagine that would really relax the body. I’m definitely going to work on these things!

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  9. Emily Swanson says

    April 24, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    I really love the perspective you have. Right now I definitely do have the option to protect my sleep, and I have to say that the biggest thing has been getting off of my computer and phone about an hour before bed. That really helps me sleep so much better and deeper. I do sometimes watch movies with my sister not long before bed, but for some reason usually that doesn’t affect me as much. And the tip about water is ESSENTIAL; if I’m drinking a huge glass before bed I inevitably have to get up in the middle of the night.

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  10. Megan @ A Continual Feast says

    April 25, 2018 at 3:34 pm

    Yessss to sleep! Tip #5 is crucial for me. I have to go to bed on a full stomach or else I don’t sleep very well!

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