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Life, Motherhood, Pregnancy

Thoughts on the Fourth Trimester

September 30, 2020 By Robyn 52 Comments

Here we are at 11 weeks postpartum and almost at the end of the fourth trimester. What happened to time?!

The postpartum period following Teddy’s birth has been quite different than the postpartum following my firstborn, Caleb. I am really thankful for Teddy’s birth – it truly was just as I had hoped and an answer to many, many prayers. In fact, it was so smooth it felt too good to be true. I knew there had to be some bumps in my future – that’s not how birth and life work, but birth and life also are not a bump-less ride.

Overall, I’m really satisfied (if that’s the right word?) with how I navigated this postpartum experience and actually rested and unplugged from the outside world. I really wanted to be able to slow down, accept help and detach from technology. In essence, to cocoon myself with just my family, our close community here and this sweet, tiny baby who just entered the world.

I wasn’t perfect and there were a few times where I downloaded the IG app again and then after mindlessly scrolling while nursing for a day or two, I realized, “yea, I don’t want to be doing this…” and would delete it again. And there was that one time where Nick came downstairs and I was vacuuming during nap time and he was like, “umm, what are you doing?” and then my pelvic floor was sore for the next 3 days. I didn’t get back into cooking & house stuff until almost 6 weeks postpartum. But that was only possible because of Nick being so supportive, our amazing friends here, my selfless mama and Nick’s wonderful parents. I know not every mama has access to these resources and support and that leaves me feeling both really thankful for what I do have and sad for what other mamas lack. Postpartum support is a whole other conversation for another day.

Physically

Since I was lucky enough to not tear this time around (I had a second degree tear with my first birth that required stitches) my bleeding stopped after a few weeks and as a whole, my vagina/perineal area healed up quickly and well. Cheers. The better indicator for me of if I was pushing too hard and needed to slow down (ex: stop picking up Cal as often, dial back on the walking, take a break from babywearing etc) was how my pelvic floor was feeling. I could easily tell when it was feeling tired and needed a break. I 10000% attribute not having long term pelvic floor issues following Cal’s birth with pelvic floor PT so I have already began that this time around with the hope of healing well and avoiding long term problems following this birth. Between PT and doing the Momma Strong postpartum videos, I’m feeling like I have some direction and intention this time around vs feeling like I’m guessing on how to care for myself best and that feels good – because most of my days as a mom of two feel like I’m winging it. 

Emotionally 

Woah. This is an area where I had unmet expectations. I’ve mulled around with whether or not to share publicly my experience because 1) it’s vulnerable and 2) the experience doesn’t just involve me – it involves my family and my babies. But, I hadn’t really heard moms in my life share thoughts/feelings that were similar to what I felt postpartum and once I started sharing (the more I shared my honest thoughts, the more free I felt with accepting them) so many moms would say, me too. So my hope in sharing is that if you’ve had a similar experience, you know you’re not alone.

Following Cal’s birth, I cried off and on that first week. But it wasn’t because I was sad or grieving our old life – it was like the love and joy I had for him was so insanely intense I didn’t know how else to release those feelings except to cry. They were so strong it almost physically hurt my heart to feel that deeply. With Teddy, I had that post-birth euphoria right after he was born, but I didn’t feel the same magnetic, intense, instant bond that I did with Cal and that felt scary for me. Having Cal meet Teddy for the first time didn’t bring me to tears because I was so happy and full of joy. Instead, I was brought to tears as I hugged Cal and looked at Teddy because I was so concerned with how Cal was feeling. Did he think I had replaced him? Did he feel less loved? How did he feel about this big change that just happened? Was he going to be okay?

A close mama friend of mine (who I know always understands me) sent me this quote after I called her crying that first day about of how I was feeling. This is exactly how I felt.


I knew I loved Teddy, there was no doubt there. But this love was different. And realizing that I no longer could devote all my attention and care to one child had me feeling all kinds of conflicting emotions I hadn’t yet experienced in motherhood. I can, for better or worse, become very hyperfocused on Cal’s (and soon to be Teddy’s I’m sure) emotional health. The idea that he could feel anything less than deep, unconditional love – that he could for one second feel like he lost any part of my love by having another baby join our family absolutely crushed me.

With Cal, loving & bonding with him felt like ripping three shots in a row at a frat house. Drunk, immediately. With Teddy, it has been like opening a bottle of red wine and really enjoying it. Drinking a sip or two and then letting it breathe for a bit in between sips. And then after a few glasses of a thick, juicy red you realize, yep….feeling drunk. I love them both, but the way I love them is different. What was fear in that first week of not loving and bonding with Teddy like I did Cal, is now so far gone. As I sit here editing this post from my phone with a sleeping 10 week old on my chest, I feel so bonded and in love with this sweet baby it brings me to tears. We just needed some time.

I now realize that I will never love Teddy like I love Cal. And I will never love Cal like I love Teddy. I don’t love one more than the other and I don’t love them the same, but I do love each of them uniquely. They each hold a special, separate place in my heart.

After the rollercoaster of that first week, I really started to level off and I stopped crying several times a day. I had many moments during that first week where I grieved our old life as a family of three – but in retrospect, I’m realizing that it wasn’t our life per say I was grieving, but rather not having to feel the harsh reality of my human limitations. With one kid, I could meet all his needs (within reason) and give him my full attention. With two though, I cannot. I cannot be all the things all the time. Motherhood feels 4x harder. That has been really humbling. 

And my placenta pills came on day six so there’s that. There is pretty much no solid evidence on encapsulating your placenta so I don’t have data for you, but with my n=2 I swear by it. Throw in some placebo effect with those placenta pills and I was feeling so much more leveled out by week two.

Breastfeeding 

I was really thankful for an overall, rather seamless breastfeeding journey with Cal. When my supply dropped mid pregnancy he kept on nursing up until the third trimester when my colostrum came in and he didn’t like that and self weaned. I felt at peace about it, it felt natural. And while I would have loved to tandem feed, when Teddy was born and Cal saw him nursing that did the opposite of making him want to nurse again haha. So up until the end of pregnancy he drank a combination of Ripple milk, then A2 cow’s milk when we trialed him back onto dairy (he’s now totally over his dairy allergy thank God!) and the frozen breastmilk I still had in our freezer. Once my milk came in after Teddy was born, I starting catching milk in the haakaa and down the road started pumping in the morning after Teddy ate so Cal could drink that breast milk out of a cup. Some people think that’s weird, but I’m all about him drinking breastmilk in any form until he’s at least two.

Teddy got thrush within the first week or so of his life. I’m not sure what tipped it off because I’ve been GBS negative with both pregnancies and thankfully haven’t had a reason to take antibiotics in what must be 10+ years. So who knows, be he had it. A mild case, but still…thrush. And if you’ve had to deal with thrush before, you know it doesn’t go down without a fight. Thankfully, I wasn’t symptomatic and Teddy didn’t feel irritated by it. He latched well from the beginning and loved the boob. But because of the thrush, I didn’t want to give him a pacifier until it cleared because then I’d have to be constantly sterilizing pacifiers and I didn’t have time or energy for that. So my boob was his pacifier.

Between catching milk (and then eventually pumping) for Cal plus Teddy constantly sucking (and just my own body/genetics/hormones) I ended up with a mega oversupply. Which sounds like a great problem to have, but in reality is not at all. Milk was everywhere. My boobs were always full and uncomfortable. And Teddy was being pummeled with milk, guzzling to where he was then having huge, waterfall like spit ups and was fussy all the time until he was upright in a wrap or carrier and attached to me. He was also gaining weight at RAPID speed. At his one month appointment (at 5 weeks old) he was up from 7 lbs 5 oz at birth (he initially dropped down to 6 lbs 14 oz) to 11 lbs 10 oz – almost a pound a week! If he was gaining like that and happy I wouldn’t have thought anything about it, but he was not happy. Throw in a few frothy green poops and I knew this wasn’t normal. After hours of research and consulting an IBCLC friend, we started block feeding, I quit the haakaa and pump altogether and within a few days he was SO much happier, my boobs were so much more comfy and his weight gained leveled off closer to average. Now, weeks later, I have just begun to add in a morning pump again if my boobs are full, but have stopped using the haakaa altogether and seems to be keeping my supply manageable. **It goes without saying, but this is just what worked for me. Please consult an IBCLC if you’re having breastfeeding issues so you can figure out what will work for you and your baby.

Along with the oversupply & thrush, Teddy also had a yeast diaper rash which was a whole other animal to deal with. Because I researched for hours on how to deal with the thrush and yeast diaper rash, I’ll share what worked for us here, although this is not medical advice. And full disclosure, I did not scour PubMed for journal articles. This was mom-googling because I was tired and desperate and did not have the time or mental capacity to read research. I didn’t pick up the nystatin prescription for Teddy because I knew from my nursing practice it wasn’t that effective and can have nasty GI side effects. I know it works well for some babies, but I wanted to hold off for a bit. So I gave other things a try first. When it comes to alternative therapies, I do think that even if something doesn’t have robust research behind it, in many cases if the chance of harm is super low or pretty much non-existent I think it never hurts to try. So here’s what we did:

For the thrush I started taking a probiotic with acidophilus in it and gave Teddy these infant probiotics. Then after each nursing session, I swabbed his mouth with coconut oil using a q-tip and then after letting my nipples air dry, wiped them with apple cider vinegar diluted in water (1 tbsp in 8 oz water) followed by coconut oil. I also just walked around topless a lot because yeast thrive in dark, warm environments so sunlight and airflow are key. Nick was constantly pulling the blinds down in our house and on our porch lol.

For his diaper rash, I started with changing his diaper as often as I could (which was almost hourly if he wasn’t sleeping) and let his bum air dry or I used a blow dryer on the cool setting during the nighttime. Yes I was blow drying his bum several times a night. It was as exhausting as it sounds. After it air dried I wiped it with the apple cider vinegar dilution followed by lathering his whole bum in coconut oil. After a week or so it was kind of working, but not like I hoped. So I did some more mom-googling and came across amazing reviews for this diaper balm. I already was using the same brand of nipple cream so trusted this brand. WOW. This diaper cream really nipped it right in the bud. Within 48 hours it was significantly better and within a week totally clear. I have continued to use it as our everyday cream. It’s pricey, but worth every penny to not have to deal with the yeasty beasties.

Dealing with the thrush and diaper rash felt like a part-time job because it added so many steps to an already time intensive process of feeding and diapering a newborn – and preventing Cal from jumping off every piece of furniture while I did that was a job in and of itself. Thank goodness for a fenced in backyard. 

Newborn Metabolic Screen

Teddy’s metabolic screen had a positive screen for MSP-1. Every baby gets a newborn metabolic screen unless you opt out, but most of the time it’s negative. But sometimes, you get a positive. The thing is, there is such a high false positive rate and the more I’ve researched the more I’m finding that this is actually a huge conundrum with the screen because it adds a lot of parental distress during the vulnerable postpartum period when you could have a perfectly healthy baby because it’s just that, a screen, not a diagnostic test. But on the flip side, they would never want to not catch one of these metabolic diseases in a baby because most of them, if not caught early, can lead to devastating effects, including death. So the screen can be incredibly life saving.

Nick and I found a 2020 well designed research paper on screening for MSP-1 and learned it has one of the highest false positive rates. Only 0.5% to 1% of babies who screen positive actually have MSP-1. While that was and is reassuring, you still don’t want your baby to be in that 1%. MSP-1 is not a genetic disease you’d ever want your child to have. It has certainly been a test of faith for me and us. A journey I’m so grateful we have had because it has grown me in ways I needed. We are in the second stage of the testing process and so far it is looking like he is likely a carrier and does not actually have the disease. The people at UVA Genetics have been amazing and we are thankful that so far, things are looking positive and hopeful.

So between the thrush, yeast rash, oversupply issue, metabolic screen and my grandma passing away when Teddy was six weeks old it was an up and down postpartum. But I’m coming out of the fourth trimester feeling really grateful, happy, only semi-exhausted and humbled, yet (mostly) confident in my ability to manage the insanely sanctifying chaos that is mothering two under two.


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Comments

  1. Andrea says

    September 30, 2020 at 9:15 am

    Robyn, thank you for sharing. You are doing a fantastic job.

    It is so important to share that not everyone bonds immediately with their babies. I have an only and she is now almost five. It took me almost a YEAR after she was born to feel that overwhelming love. I thought something was so so wrong as all I ever heard was “wow, can you believe how much you love her? I looked at my baby and felt instant love. Etc” and all I felt was “wait … who’s baby is this?”

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    • Andrea says

      September 30, 2020 at 9:17 am

      Whoops, didn’t finish. Not everything is “perfect” now as I don’t love being a mother (and I thought I would!) but I have learned to accept that is also okay. I love her fiercely and it’s okay if I find most parts of mothering a young person unsatisfying. That’s my truth!!

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      • Robyn says

        October 6, 2020 at 12:51 pm

        Thank you for sharing so honestly Andrea – I know at least one other moms reading this will say “me too” and what a gift you’ve given here for her to know she is not alone

        Reply
  2. Amanda says

    September 30, 2020 at 12:03 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your emotions during this journey. I’m due with our second little boy in December and already feeling a bit wary about our first’s emotions. It’s so helpful to read about your experience and realize it may not be an instantaneous feeling, which is ok! Sending you love!

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    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2020 at 12:53 pm

      I read a lot on the emotional transition for my firstborn (even if it’s rocky at first it will smooth out!) but man I wish I had heard other mamas talk about bonding with their second. Congrats to you!! There is nothing like a cuddly, cozy winter baby 🙂

      Reply
  3. Kristin says

    September 30, 2020 at 1:33 pm

    Thank you for sharing! You offer such a refreshing and honest perspective on motherhood. I admire and respect your desires to step away from technology during this precious time and am grateful you pop in to provide updates. Wishing you and your family the best!

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    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2020 at 12:54 pm

      Thank you for your words Kristin and for reading <3

      Reply
  4. Charlie says

    September 30, 2020 at 2:37 pm

    Thank you so much for this honest reflection! It’s so helpful to read. I remember seeing somewhere a while ago where you posted some of your favorite baby items with Cal but can’t seem to find that anywhere now. I’m due with my first soon and have a fairly minimalist view to baby items but wondering if you’d be willing to do a post about things you chose to invest in and what was especially helpful? Thanks so much for all your posts!

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    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2020 at 12:55 pm

      Look at my mama highlight on IG!!

      Maybe I’ll write a post down the line. Congrats to you!

      Reply
  5. Sarah says

    September 30, 2020 at 2:39 pm

    Thank you for sharing about the emotional side of welcoming a baby – I feel like it’s so underdiscussed when you’re pregnant and postpartum! It wouldn’t be as practical now but last fall when I was a new mom (which I recognize is probably 100 times different than welcoming a second baby) I was part of a self compassion for new mothers group. It was so nice to have a group of women to go through all the ups and downs of the early months with because it is HARD! And I was so expecting it to be all rainbows and sunshine and then I realized I wasn’t the only one whose heart was exploding with joy over my new baby but who was also kind of sad in a weird way about losing the life I had before. Anyway, thoughts with you during this time!

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    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2020 at 12:57 pm

      I’m such a fan of mom support groups! SO GLAD you had that save space to be and connect with others. Hugs!

      Reply
  6. Genevieve Miller says

    September 30, 2020 at 3:27 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and insights so vulnerably! It is such a source of solidarity and wisdom as I am in the midst of my own motherhood journey with a daughter about to turn one year old. She was diagnosed with CMPA similar to Cal when she was born, and I am now hoping to try reintroducing dairy slowly using the milk ladder approach. Do you have any tips from your experience reintroducing dairy with Cal? Any signs to look for if it’s not going well, since it may not be as obvious?

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    • Robyn says

      October 6, 2020 at 1:00 pm

      It means so much that my words have resonated 🙂 We started with A2 milk products at 18 months after a major fail at 12 months. Beyond that, I’d encourage you to talk to your pediatrician about this and get their approach since they know your baby much better than I do – I’d never attempt to give medical advice via blog comment. Thank you for understanding!! Xx

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      • Genevieve Miller says

        October 6, 2020 at 1:09 pm

        Thank you SO much for this advice, Robyn! One quick follow-up: Any symptoms to look for if it’s not going well based upon what you experienced around 12 months? I feel like it’s harder to tell now.

        Also, this may be for a separate blog post, but I’d love to hear your perspective on weaning (both the physical and emotional experience).

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        • Robyn says

          October 11, 2020 at 10:11 am

          He was waking 5-6x a night inconsolable – not even nursing would put him back to sleep and we were also bedsharing at that time. We chalked it up to the recent move from Boston to Cville but after a couple months cut dairy back out and he was sleeping 9-10 hours straight (just one wake during a 12 hour night sleep vs 5-6)

          I was pregnant when Cal weaned so didn’t get the hormonal shift bc my milk supply had over time dried almost all up due to pregnancy (he was comfort nursing from like months 14-17 even after my milk was gone) – emotionally, I felt so much at peace when he weaned around 17 months. mostly because I couldn’t remember his “last time” and I thought he might get back on the boob when I had baby 2 – he didn’t get back on the boob so he is fully weaned and for me, I was totally at peace. He weaned naturally and has had no interest in nursing post baby 2 even though I offer so that feels good to me that he was ready. That just my experience!

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          • Genevieve Miller says

            October 11, 2020 at 2:59 pm

            Robyn thank you SO much! You have no idea how helpful it is to hear you share your experiences so openly and to know that I am far from alone on this motherhood journey. You have encouraged me to practice lots of grace and flexibility as a mom, and also your resources for breastfeeding, CMP allergy, etc. have been an absolute lifesaver along the way.

            My daughter is about to turn one and we are hoping to have another baby close in age, so I’m going to put into practice the advice you shared on your recent blog post and cut out all intentional exercise so that I can hopefully get my period back soon. Having a history of hypothalamic amenorrhea, your blog continues to be a source of information and support in different seasons of life!

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  7. India says

    September 30, 2020 at 7:33 pm

    You are a gift to us! Did you know that? I absolutely love it when you share -thank you! I started crying when I read about your postpartum experience this time because all the questions you shared with us are exactly what bring me to tears now (32 weeks pregnant). I tell my husband all the time it breaks my heart that our first born is going to have this huge change & I worry he will fear there isn’t enough love anymore for him. Even typing that makes me cry! So much of me wants to say I’ll pass off the newborn to anyone just to make sure my toddler is okay, but I know there are times he won’t be no matter what I do. It’s so much.

    I know your time on here is limited, but if you’re able & comfortable, would you share how you set up focusing on healing/baby bonding those first 6 weeks? Like did you have a chat with Nick & family about what you needed specifically (and how did you know what those were) or did it just happen? It’s amazing Nick called you out for vacuuming – beautiful!!! That’s how it should be & I’m so glad you had that, especially with all the extra things you had going on.

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  8. Teresa says

    October 8, 2020 at 8:11 pm

    Robyn, thank you so much for this wonderful, detailed, rich post! I love EVERYTHING that you write, but I especially appreciate your reflections on motherhood… and especially now so because my babies are more or less the exact same ages as yours (I have a daughter born in Jan. 2019 and another daughter born at the end of July).

    I loved your shots vs. wine analogy in regards to the drunk love you feel for you babies. You put into words my experience and it was so validating to hear about someone else having the same experience.

    Thank you!

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    • Robyn says

      October 11, 2020 at 10:06 am

      Wow our babies are pretty much the same age! I am so glad you can relate to that experience – we really are so not alone in our mothering experiences I’m learning.

      Reply
  9. Liz says

    October 11, 2020 at 10:46 am

    Robyn, 12 weeks ago we welcomed our second child too and everything you shared about your feelings is so true. I was so scared and worried to hurt my 2 year old’s feelings by loving another little child. It broke my heart to think that she could possibly feel less loved. I try my best to give her extra cuddles and spend some 1 on 1 time with her and hope that’s enough. She definitely has asked for more hugs and affirmations than her usual which I am glad she feels comfortable asking for that. In regards to the love for your second, i agree it isdifferent and i couldn’t quite put my finger on it so you summed it up perfectly for me. The love is different and at first the feeling is like a stranger is coming into your life to break up all the love your little family of 3 had. It takes some time and soul searching and the new love and family grows strong again. Thank you for sharing. Life with 2 is different but with double the joy (and lets be honest, double the hard parts too)

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A little way I’m learning to enjoy these years o A little way I’m learning to enjoy these years of getting to spend so much time with my kids: aka another way I’m discovering some pockets of peace so my heart & mind & soul don’t crumble under the reality of dependent & emotionally dysregulated tiny humans.  About once a week we go somewhere for baked goods. We drive or walk, buy something buttery & then find a beautiful, relatively quiet outdoor spot where the boys can romp and I can sit and think my thoughts while I watch them play. This past week we were found ourselves at the Wool Factory where the boys threw rocks & whatever else off the bridge while I ate 90% of this almond 🥐 from @coucourachou that will blow your mind. Boys ate the other 10% bc they were busy playing and didn’t ask for more quickly enough 😜  I’m finding *for me* playgrounds have a time & place but they aren’t where I enjoy motherhood & my two toddlers the most. Baked goods & a pretty outdoor spot without high drops my 15 month old could launch himself off of…I’m here for it.
I brought this bag of snacks along when I took the I brought this bag of snacks along when I took the boys to hike out at one of our favorite spots last week and when I ripped it open I was regretting my choice to share them with my kids. @baresnacks randomly sent me a box of snacks and I usually eat free food we receive or give it to a friend/neighbor and move on. But I felt it my duty to tell you about these bc they are THAT GOOD. I’m not getting paid and this isn’t sponsored - I was just shocked at how tasty these were and felt you needed to know. We ate them with some buttery roasted nuts and the combo was 👌🏻 but they are good just on their own.  The boys climbed rocks and swam in the reservoir - leave it to my almost 3 year old to want to strip down naked and fully submerge himself in chilly water on a sixty degree morning. “Mama can I get super nakey?” Sure baby. Sure. This is your childhood.
It’s a hard sell to get me to accept an offer of It’s a hard sell to get me to accept an offer of extended alone time away from the babies to just be. And that isn’t something that’s best for me, it’s an area I gotta grow in. So this afternoon when Nick pushed me out the door and was like - get out of here plzzzz - I walked to my favorite cafe and ordered a thick pastrami sandwich and sat there for a good LONG while before taking a long, peaceful walk in the rain to wrap up the afternoon. Note to self: stop being such a control freak and go be by yourself sometimes.
a girlfriend brought me a 🍪 the size of my face a girlfriend brought me a 🍪 the size of my face from @mariebettecafe this morning when she came to get her toddler who played with us all morning and it is v good. even better when paired with an iced latte 😍
#AlignPartner I left off a few weeks ago sharing a #AlignPartner I left off a few weeks ago sharing about how taking @alignprobiotic regularly has improved my digestive regularity.  And I’m still taking them! I’ve permanently added Align 24/7 Digestive Support* into the roundup of supplements I take before bed (prenatal, vitamin D, choline & DHA - all which help keep me healthy while breastfeeding) so I can keep seeing the benefits.  Just because you see benefits, doesn’t mean you should stop taking your probiotic. Keep taking Align daily (under the supervision and recommendation of your health care provider of course) to keep seeing the benefits!  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again - one of my favorite parts of Align probiotics is that they don’t need refrigeration AND they come in a convenient little blister pack that has the days labeled. It’s the little things people! #MyAlignGuutJourney #guthealth  *These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
I realized it was going to be a long, hot afternoo I realized it was going to be a long, hot afternoon (91 and muggy in MAY 🤯) when a toddler nap was refused and a baby nap was cut wildly short ....so my tired mom brain pulled out two plastic storage bins, filled them up with soap & hose water and striped ‘em down naked in the yard. Two hours later, it was almost time for an early dinner and I had magically been able to sit for most of that time and we already had baths checked off the list. 👍🏻 I’m archiving this idea for my future self, hope it helps another tired mama out.
#AlignPartner I left off a month ago sharing about #AlignPartner I left off a month ago sharing about getting better at doing the basics to care for myself which included taking my supplements and @alignprobiotic regularly.  Probiotics take time to work so I wanted to give it a full month to see the full effects of @alignprobiotic. So here are my honest thoughts: it took a few weeks to notice any differences, but near the end of the month I did notice some changes in my digestive balance - even while traveling! I’m not someone who experiences occasional gas, bloating or abdominal discomfort frequently enough to notice a difference, so I don’t feel like I can comment on how well Align works for those benefits.  All in all though, taking @alignprobiotic was a positive experience and I really appreciated how the capsules don’t need to be stored in the fridge, making it convenient to take them with me anywhere #MyAlignGuutJourney #guthealth  *These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
Where we will spend a good majority of our summer. Where we will spend a good majority of our summer. Because the swampy VA summer has already begun (it’s in the low 90s today 🥵 lord help) and creeks are our retreat - not only from the heat but also from the noisy world. I need this just (if not more) than they do! We’ll be at the splash pads and pools too, but the quietness of the creek...my mental health is so about it. And it’s hours of play for them! Win win.  A couple things to note: this scene also included a few toddler reminders on finding another direction to throw rocks instead of at his brother - so not all is serene 🤪 and also, yes I am now that mom who buys the same clothing for both kids bc it keeps things simple & i think i kinda like it too 🤷🏻‍♀️
Things I love about midwifery among many: the appo Things I love about midwifery among many: the appointments, no matter how long, feel so unhurried. 
Just walked in from an appointment with my midwife because I was due for a Pap test + an overall wellness visit. My last pap was during my first trimester with Cal which feels like a jillion years ago, but it’s only actually been three years. Life changes so fast! Pre-baby life feels like a whole other life.  I’m wayyyy overdue for a visit to my PCP bc I’ve been under OBGYN or midwifery care for the majority of the past three years while having babies, but I am pretty good with keeping up with my paps. It seems women often think they need pap and/or HPV testing way more frequently than they do (and providers sometimes perform these tests more frequently than necessary - remember more testing doesn’t always mean better outcomes!)  So if you need it, here’s a quick little reminder on this chilly spring Friday afternoon on how often you need this testing (these are the recommendations from ACOG)  Women aged 21–29 years should have a Pap test alone every 3 years. HPV testing is not recommended.  Women aged 30–65 years should have a Pap test and an HPV test (aka co-testing) every 5 years (preferred). It also is acceptable to have a Pap test alone every 3 years.  If you get abnormal results, this testing frequency could change - but for healthy women with normal results, you actually don’t need testing as frequently as you might think. Which is great news for those of you who hate the speculum.  Ok, off to finish up some things on the to-do list (including cleaning this kitchen) during nap time and then come 5 o’clock, crack an IPA with our neighbors 🍻
#AlignPartner Over the past seven months since bec #AlignPartner Over the past seven months since becoming a mom of two, caring for myself has gotten shoved to the back burner. And it's been a challenge to make it a priority. My routine-resistant personality has upsides and downsides when it comes to motherhood. So I'm starting small this year with a consistent bedtime routine that includes taking my supplements and @alignprobiotic and hoping as that becomes consistent, my mornings will naturally shift too.  In short my bedtime currently goes like this….jammies & face care when putting the babies to bed. Before I go to bed (anytime between 9pm and 12am...) I’ll pump, take my supplements and fill my water. Then I go upstairs and brush my teeth. And then get in bed. The kicker: 70% of the time I find myself finishing up tasks on my phone IN BED. I hate this habit.  Back to supplements. This is something I have been able to stick with. On top of fish oil, my prenatal, choline and vitamin D, I recently added @AlignProbiotic 24/7 Digestive Support*§ to see if it helps with abdominal discomfort and regularity because when I don’t drink coffee or am traveling that can get thrown off.  I’ll be taking it every day for the next 28 days since it takes TIME for our bodies to adjust to probiotics - and I'll be taking you guys along with me as I share my honest thoughts. Many people think if they don’t see changes within the first 7-10 days then the probiotic isn’t working, but that’s not the case. I’m giving myself more than just a week or two and instead a full month to see the full benefits. I’ll keep you posted over the next month. Check out my stories to learn more! #MyAlignGutJourney #guthealth
 
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We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care f We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care for a nap. Putting baby down was harder than I wanted it to be. Miraculously, I had a moment of clarity as I was covered in tiny humans and decided I wasn’t doing the nap battle thing a on 60 degree, gorgeous, sunny spring day 🙅🏻‍♀️ so I piled both babies into the car half naked, opened the sun roof, put on white noise for them and an audio book for me and drank a kombucha as I drove a meal to a postpartum mama. Thirty five minutes later we had a sleeping baby and a toddler who at least had a rest. Baby transferred without waking HALLELUJAH and although my toddler didn’t nap today (lord help) at least we got soaked in breezy sunshine 😎🤘🏻💆🏻‍♀️
We veered from our usual Friday night homemade piz We veered from our usual Friday night homemade pizza (minus the dough, we leave that to @albemarlebakingco) because we are eating pizza tomorrow with some friends - instead I called my mom and asked her how she makes her chicken fingers and we fried up a big ole batch of chicken nugs 🙌🏻🤤 along with a sheet pan full of sweet potato fries and a simple arugula salad dressed with parmesean, olive oil and s&p. Oh and my moms honey mustard recipe for dipping. It’s SO DANG GOOD.  Over the past 6ish months we’ve been practicing (and practicing and practicing bc it doesn’t come naturally) unplugging from technology and slowing down and resting and just being for one day a week. Some call it Shabbat. Some call it Sabbath. Maybe you call it something different. All I know is IT IS SO GOOD FOR MY WEARY SOUL and the day I look forward to ALL WEEK. Sundown on Friday to sundown Saturday. Nothing but rest. For us that means hiking (or something outside) and napping and reading and being with friends and eating really good food. And drinking some really good wine or craft beer. Sometimes whiskey. 😛  And because I know I’ll get asked about the chicken finger recipe and also because it’s too good not to share and Momma Coale said I could, here ya go:  Cut chicken breast into thin strips or small pieces (I prefer nug size bc the breading to chicken ratio is perfection). Salt and pepper those babies really well. Then dredge them in all purpose flour, then egg, then panko - just like you would bread anything else. Then fry them up in a light oil - I use avocado oil because that’s our everyday oil. You could also use canola or peanut oil. Just fill a pan with an inch or so of oil on medium high heat. They only take 2-3 minutes per side. You can always temp them to make sure they are at least 165 degrees F to really make sure they are done. Dunk in all the sauces and enjoy!  Happy weekend!

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