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Food Freedom, Life, Registered Dietitian, Self Care

What Even Is Balance? Does It Even Exist?

July 10, 2015 By Robyn 43 Comments

People always talk about wanting to find balance.

A work/life balance.

Balance with eating.

Balance with exercise.

Balance with being structured, yet spontaneous.

And on and on. But really, what even is balance? What does that even look like?

I’ve been thinking about this so much more lately as I settle into a new season in life. It’s a new school year and I’ve transitioned from being a second Bachelor’s degree student to a Master’s student. I’ve moved from uptown to downtown where life just feels different– busier and faster, yet exciting. And now relationships have expanded and grown since I’ve been in NYC for over a year now. Life is good and in many good ways, it looks much different than last year. My days aren’t as externally structured like they were during the BSN year. Literally, every day last year was full of 8-12 hours of time on campus or full days in the hospital. Now, I’m up at Columbia all day on Wednesdays and Thursdays but the rest of the week I’m mostly downtown near my apartment. I’ve had to find a way to structure those “open” days so they are productive and not chaotic, leaving me wondering, “where did today go?”

I won’t lie, it took me about a month to figure out that new rhythm. To figure out how to draw boundaries in my social life in order to do Nutshell and school well. But to also draw boundaries with Nutshell + the blog in order to manage stress and feel mentally healthy. With all the traveling this summer, I’ve had to find a new balance with nutrition, running and sleep. And that’s a balance I’m not even sure I’ve completely figured out, but rather one where I’ve had to give myself a lot of grace.

So how do we balance it all as seasons and rhythms of life change?

Do we actually ever balance it all?

I don’t think we actually do. I think we do what matters and that means balance for one person is going to look different than balance for another person.

I use to not give myself a lot of grace with balancing life and just doing what matters and instead I’d run myself ragged trying to do it all. Like I thought I was at the buffet, when really I was just at the dinner table. The plate was only so big and couldn’t be constantly filled. But we’re not called to a life of busy or a life of perfection – we’re called to a life of purpose. And busy and perfect do not make us worthy. So when I find myself caught up in trying to do it all or do it perfect, I’m grateful for people in my life who love me well and are willing to call me out on that.

So what does “balance” look like now?

With work and school, that looks like doing what matters most. So that means not doing things so I please everyone or because I think I should or because that’s what looks like success to the outside world. What that does mean is doing what’s most important. Right now that is school and TAing. After that is Nutshell and after that is the blog + freelance stuff. So if my plate is too full and there aren’t enough hours in the day to do all the work and stay sane, then something has to go and for this season in life, that means I’m not blogging or doing as much freelance. And that’s okay.

With balancing social things and work/school that means saying no to social things that aren’t where I feel I’m meant to invest. I’m an extrovert and I love people. I love getting to know people, heart to hearting, engaging with people, loving people, and just being around people. While that’s a good thing, I totally envy people who can just say no and spend time alone or not be at everything. So as harsh as this might sound, that means choosing those friendships that matter, those I want to invest in and see grow, and then saying no to coffee dates or late nights or other social things that aren’t going to nurture those friendships. Quality over quantity.

And by confidently saying no to things, I know I’m not missing out, but instead allowing myself to take care of me and do well in school while not feeling like I’m sacrificing my social life. I need a glass a wine and an occasional late night to balance the books just as much as I need the studying to balance the wine and 2am bedtimes. And along with that comes balancing a relationship with friendships. It’s super important to me to spend time with my close friends, and to spend quality time with Nick. For me, a healthy relationship is one where both people have friendships that are independent of the friendships they share together.

With food and nutrition, there have been seasons in life where I had time, and quite honestly the desire, to meal prep and cook. But this isn’t one of them. Life just isn’t predictable enough for me to cook in advance. Plus summer is always full of more traveling so I’m barely at home on weekends. And eating out is one of my favorite things to do in the city, especially now that it’s summer and you can eat outside on the sidewalk or patios. So these days, my version of “healthy eating” probably looks different than what some might consider healthy. I eat out a lot, I eat over at friends often and we have people over at our apartment for dinner often too.

So does that mean there’s a lot more meat and dairy on my plate than in the past…absolutely. But there’s also vegetables and green smoothies. My body and mind feel good and that’s what matters. And for me, not stressing about grocery shopping or meal prepping is balance. It’s working for this season. Do I want to cook more? Of course. But eating the same lunch 5 days a week and leaving dinners up to eating out or having others cook, is one less thing I need to worry about and that’s the healthy balance for me.

After a pretty touch and go few months of working out and running I finally feel like I’m starting to settle into a groove again. I’m running the NYC marathon on November 1st and I just started officially ‘marathon training’ this week. Is it the most intense or highest mileage I’ve done? No way. I’m running about 4 days a week and that’s what my body and my schedule allows. Just living gives my body movement with walking and biking. That on top of running is more than enough for my body. Will I run my fastest time? Probably not. But will I hopefully stay injury free, mentally healthy, and rested…yes. And if I miss a run or need to sleep in instead of run, there’s lots and lots of grace for that.

With sleep, ohhhhh man after a month of poor sleep I’ve learned where to draw the line. Whether that’s saying I’m not staying out past such and such time, leaving lots of emails unanswered at the end of the day, not getting up a blog post, or telling my roommates I can’t stay up and talk [which I could do for hours], I know that I have to set boundaries because I need at least 7 hours of sleep to function. In college, I have no idea how I use to subsist off 5 or 6 hours and be fine. But as I say all the time, sleep is the most important thing- poor sleep and you’re destined for hormonal whack. There is no compromise there.

So from the outside am I doing everything and balancing it all perfectly? Of course not!

But this is what’s working right now. It’s the rhythm for this summer. And it’s what matters.

Because health is so much more than the vegetables on your plate or how much you can sweat in a day.


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  1. TJ says

    July 10, 2015 at 7:06 am

    I really like this post. I think you hit the nail on the head. I think balance is different for everyone and at the end of the day I think “balance” is just not driving yourself absolutely mad one way or the other. In other words, as long as you aren’t super stressed because of one thing whether it’s work, food, exercise, etc. I think that’s balance. I think balance also changes, as more weight gets put in one area you have to lighten the weight in another area. Like I know balance for my boyfriend and for myself is very different. He loves hockey and he will gladly go to a 10pm game and come home at 1am to have to go to work on 5 hours of sleep the next day. Me? If it’s a choice between a hobby or sleep…I am clocking out at 9pm latest because I get up at 5am. Sleep is great : ) I feel like I’ve found balance in most of my areas and have gone OUT of my way to get that balance in some (like work). I think for me it’s still nutrition that’s hard. Not because it’s NOT balanced, but because my mind forces me to perceive it that way sometimes.

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    • Robyn Coale says

      July 15, 2015 at 10:54 am

      It’s always a work in progress so give yourself lots of grace in the process 🙂
      I don’t think we ever figure it out perfectly! xo

      Reply
  2. Megan says

    July 10, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    Girl, you get me–and this post really gets me. After a crazy year on my end with also moving and starting school full time again, I thought summer would be less crazy. Nope, turns out interning full time, with volunteering, traveling, making time to exercise, and spending time the people I care about quickly leads to a jam-packed calendar and very little time for myself or prioritizing sleep. Add to all that that, like you, I just began a new relationship. These are all great, wonderful things, but finding balance is definitely a myth. Thanks for the encouragement to rethink what I value and prioritize!

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    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:22 am

      Can totally relate to the beautiful and exciting craziness! Hope you finding some rest still 🙂
      xo

      Reply
  3. Jacklyn @ Jack's Balancing Act says

    July 10, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    Oh how your writing speaks to my soul. I feel like I comment on just about every post but I always get to the end and need to express my gratitude for your blog! I happily await your posts but assume that in the meantime you’re busy living and loving… and how could anyone ever hold that against you?! Hope you have a great weekend <3

    Reply
    • Robyn Coale says

      July 15, 2015 at 10:53 am

      You are so sweet! Thank you so much for reading and I’m so glad it resonates with you 🙂
      Giving you a huge hug!

      Reply
  4. Caitlin says

    July 10, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    Your writing… wow. You consistently say the things that need to be said in such a gentle and thought-provoking way. You continue to inspire me. Have a fabulous weekend!

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:24 am

      Thank you for the encouragement Caitlin!
      Have a wonderful weekend too! 🙂

      Reply
  5. Erin says

    July 11, 2015 at 10:05 am

    One of the beautiful things about life is that it is always changing, and I admire your ability to adapt to the changes. If we force rigid rules and expectations on ourselves, we can’t enjoy the new opportunities and situations that present themselves. Good luck as you begin this new section of your journey with your own, unique balance 🙂

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:25 am

      YES, so true! Thanks Erin 🙂

      Reply
  6. Brittany @ Barr & Table says

    July 12, 2015 at 5:29 pm

    I just love your posts and your outlook on life. Anytime I need a reminder of what really matters, you know, things that don’t involve only eating “clean” and working out to get the perfect body, you are where I turn. My goal is to find my balance in life as you are.

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:26 am

      know that over here there is a whole lotta gray and messiness that comes with that “balance” – remember it’s not about perfection, but about grace and doing what matters 🙂

      Reply
  7. Shannon says

    July 13, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Gosh! Why is every one of your posts so good? I really love the message you are sending here. While I do miss reading your blog more often, I love that you are doing what is healthy for you. Have a great week!

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:27 am

      I hope to be able to write more when the fall comes, thank you for supporting and reading despite the inconsistency! xo

      Reply
  8. She Rocks Fitness says

    July 13, 2015 at 9:18 pm

    AMAZING! You sound so happy and that is truly AWESOME! I am glad that you are enjoying yourself. Living life to the fullest. And having fun. And coming into a groove that works for YOU! Beautiful post friend…xoxo

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:28 am

      Thank you for your sweet words girl! Hope you are having a wonderful summer!!

      Reply
  9. Kayla says

    July 14, 2015 at 10:06 am

    I’m so glad you’re posting again! I was so excited to see a new post – yay!! I know you’re super busy, but your readers love your content so I’ll continue to follow your journey as you navigate this new stage in your life. 🙂

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:28 am

      Thank you for your ongoing support! It means the WORLD!

      Reply
  10. Katie says

    July 15, 2015 at 9:57 am

    Your words always speak to my heart 🙂 Like I said… please publish a book!

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:29 am

      That might be something that’s not too far off 🙂
      Thank you for your kind words!

      Reply
  11. Robyn Coale says

    July 15, 2015 at 10:55 am

    I think we are always a work in progress and just when we find a groove, things always seem to shake up a bit- but that’s what makes life interesting! Hope you’re enjoying your summer too!

    Reply
  12. Jess says

    July 15, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    Love this! Love you MORE!!

    Reminded me of this Grey’s Anatomy quote, too!
    “Cause if take your vitamins and pay your taxes and never cut the line, the universe still gives you people to love and then lets them slip through your fingers like water. And then what have you got? Vitamins… and nothing.”

    Reply
    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:30 am

      nailed it with that quote.
      LOVE YOU THE MOST!

      Reply
  13. Cara says

    July 15, 2015 at 9:20 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful post Robyn. “Balance” has been my New Years resolution every year for the past like 5 years and every year I feel like I fail within a week. I can’t seem to balance everything on my plate and beat myself up when I can’t get everything done or prioritize correctly. But I think you’re right- life isn’t going to be in balance in every given moment. Comprehensively it will, but in different seasons different priorities will take more time than others. Thank you for the beautiful reminder! Hope you’re enjoying NYC- you beam in all your pics 🙂

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    • Robyn says

      July 18, 2015 at 11:33 am

      It’s not about perfection, but rather giving yourself space to breathe and grace to be okay with always having a never ending to-do list, knowing that is OKAY. Do what matters, love people well and let the rest just be.
      Thank YOU for reading Cara! 🙂

      Reply
  14. S says

    July 19, 2015 at 3:28 pm

    Love this!! Great post to check over when balance seems unobtainable – which it often does!!!

    Kind of off topic – but what is your opinion on low carb diets? And when being on a low carb diet, being able to eat unlimited/as much fat as will satisfy you?

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Things I love about midwifery among many: the appo Things I love about midwifery among many: the appointments, no matter how long, feel so unhurried. 
Just walked in from an appointment with my midwife because I was due for a Pap test + an overall wellness visit. My last pap was during my first trimester with Cal which feels like a jillion years ago, but it’s only actually been three years. Life changes so fast! Pre-baby life feels like a whole other life.  I’m wayyyy overdue for a visit to my PCP bc I’ve been under OBGYN or midwifery care for the majority of the past three years while having babies, but I am pretty good with keeping up with my paps. It seems women often think they need pap and/or HPV testing way more frequently than they do (and providers sometimes perform these tests more frequently than necessary - remember more testing doesn’t always mean better outcomes!)  So if you need it, here’s a quick little reminder on this chilly spring Friday afternoon on how often you need this testing (these are the recommendations from ACOG)  Women aged 21–29 years should have a Pap test alone every 3 years. HPV testing is not recommended.  Women aged 30–65 years should have a Pap test and an HPV test (aka co-testing) every 5 years (preferred). It also is acceptable to have a Pap test alone every 3 years.  If you get abnormal results, this testing frequency could change - but for healthy women with normal results, you actually don’t need testing as frequently as you might think. Which is great news for those of you who hate the speculum.  Ok, off to finish up some things on the to-do list (including cleaning this kitchen) during nap time and then come 5 o’clock, crack an IPA with our neighbors 🍻
#AlignPartner Over the past seven months since bec #AlignPartner Over the past seven months since becoming a mom of two, caring for myself has gotten shoved to the back burner. And it's been a challenge to make it a priority. My routine-resistant personality has upsides and downsides when it comes to motherhood. So I'm starting small this year with a consistent bedtime routine that includes taking my supplements and @alignprobiotic and hoping as that becomes consistent, my mornings will naturally shift too.  In short my bedtime currently goes like this….jammies & face care when putting the babies to bed. Before I go to bed (anytime between 9pm and 12am...) I’ll pump, take my supplements and fill my water. Then I go upstairs and brush my teeth. And then get in bed. The kicker: 70% of the time I find myself finishing up tasks on my phone IN BED. I hate this habit.  Back to supplements. This is something I have been able to stick with. On top of fish oil, my prenatal, choline and vitamin D, I recently added @AlignProbiotic 24/7 Digestive Support*§ to see if it helps with abdominal discomfort and regularity because when I don’t drink coffee or am traveling that can get thrown off.  I’ll be taking it every day for the next 28 days since it takes TIME for our bodies to adjust to probiotics - and I'll be taking you guys along with me as I share my honest thoughts. Many people think if they don’t see changes within the first 7-10 days then the probiotic isn’t working, but that’s not the case. I’m giving myself more than just a week or two and instead a full month to see the full benefits. I’ll keep you posted over the next month. Check out my stories to learn more! #MyAlignGutJourney #guthealth
 
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We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care f We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care for a nap. Putting baby down was harder than I wanted it to be. Miraculously, I had a moment of clarity as I was covered in tiny humans and decided I wasn’t doing the nap battle thing a on 60 degree, gorgeous, sunny spring day 🙅🏻‍♀️ so I piled both babies into the car half naked, opened the sun roof, put on white noise for them and an audio book for me and drank a kombucha as I drove a meal to a postpartum mama. Thirty five minutes later we had a sleeping baby and a toddler who at least had a rest. Baby transferred without waking HALLELUJAH and although my toddler didn’t nap today (lord help) at least we got soaked in breezy sunshine 😎🤘🏻💆🏻‍♀️
We veered from our usual Friday night homemade piz We veered from our usual Friday night homemade pizza (minus the dough, we leave that to @albemarlebakingco) because we are eating pizza tomorrow with some friends - instead I called my mom and asked her how she makes her chicken fingers and we fried up a big ole batch of chicken nugs 🙌🏻🤤 along with a sheet pan full of sweet potato fries and a simple arugula salad dressed with parmesean, olive oil and s&p. Oh and my moms honey mustard recipe for dipping. It’s SO DANG GOOD.  Over the past 6ish months we’ve been practicing (and practicing and practicing bc it doesn’t come naturally) unplugging from technology and slowing down and resting and just being for one day a week. Some call it Shabbat. Some call it Sabbath. Maybe you call it something different. All I know is IT IS SO GOOD FOR MY WEARY SOUL and the day I look forward to ALL WEEK. Sundown on Friday to sundown Saturday. Nothing but rest. For us that means hiking (or something outside) and napping and reading and being with friends and eating really good food. And drinking some really good wine or craft beer. Sometimes whiskey. 😛  And because I know I’ll get asked about the chicken finger recipe and also because it’s too good not to share and Momma Coale said I could, here ya go:  Cut chicken breast into thin strips or small pieces (I prefer nug size bc the breading to chicken ratio is perfection). Salt and pepper those babies really well. Then dredge them in all purpose flour, then egg, then panko - just like you would bread anything else. Then fry them up in a light oil - I use avocado oil because that’s our everyday oil. You could also use canola or peanut oil. Just fill a pan with an inch or so of oil on medium high heat. They only take 2-3 minutes per side. You can always temp them to make sure they are at least 165 degrees F to really make sure they are done. Dunk in all the sauces and enjoy!  Happy weekend!

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