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Daily Eats, Eating Disorders, Hormones, Reproductive Health

Why Am I Not Getting My Period?

August 19, 2015 By Robyn 69 Comments

So this week I became a Registered Nurse.

It still feels a bit surreal.

I took the NCLEX on Thursday morning and then had to wait the entire weekend before I found out the results on Monday morning. To say I was relieved was an understatement. I’m typically a sad crier and laugh or scream when I’m happy, but I ugly cried when I saw “pass” on Monday. PRAISE THE LORD.

So 14 months after moving to New York City and going back to school, I can now write:

Robyn Coale, RD, RN.

WIAW breakfast // two pieces of whole grain bread with PB and J + a post run green smoothie made with 1 scoop Vega Sport, 1 frozen banana, frozen spinach and almond milk 

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I think I had so many emotions when I found out Monday because it meant so much more than just being a nurse. The past three years of doing Nutshell has heavily influenced my decision to be a Nurse Practitioner, so officially becoming an RN was tangible solidification that this is happening. I’ve always been super passionate about helping women find food freedom and true health and healing, but over the past couple months, the client interactions and conversations I’ve had have made my heart explode with excitement and an uncontainable passion to care for women more comprehensively.

I’ve worked with clients from all different health backgrounds and even worked with men, but over time I’ve seen more and more women who come to me with a history of restrictive eating and overexercising asking the question, “Why am I not getting my period?” Some have never had a period at all and they are now in their 20s. The more women I’ve worked with, the more frustrated I’ve become at how medicine and healthcare has addressed this issue. Amenorrhea is not something you just slap a birth control prescription on and call it a day. That’s not the solution and all that’s doing is masking an underlying cause of why women aren’t menstruating.

Having walked through hypothalamic amenorrhea myself, I too have walked out of a doctor’s office enraged and thinking, “Really?! Birth control is your only answer?” What typically happens is health care providers run a bunch of lab tests, which usually includes your female hormones and a thyroid panel, among others. Then when the results come back normal and if your weight is within the “normal” BMI range, you get a prescription for progesterone to jump start your cycle and/or birth control to keep it regular and off you go. Hearing this story time after time from clients enraged me. The issue nine times out of ten is not a hormone deficiency, the issue is lifestyle.

lunch // Ezekiel bread with baba ganoush + olive oil + tomatoes, salad with brussel sprouts + tomatoes + cucumber and TJs champagne dressing, and an apple

afternoon snacks // TJs raisin bran with almond milk and some mixed nuts 

Hormones are the leading role in the regulation of a woman’s reproductive health. They regulate menstruation, fertility, menopause, and your sex drive [which is why when your restricting food/overexercising and have low estrogen, the last thing on your mind is sex…unfortunate, but true.] The hormonal cascade that causes our menstrual cycle starts in the hypothalamus. Gonadotropin-releasing hormone triggers the pituitary gland to release follicle stimulating hormone [FSH] and luteinizing hormone [LH] and FSH and LH then start the process of ovulation in the ovaries. The ovaries produce estrogen and progesterone, both which help get the uterus ready for pregnancy. So if pregnancy doesn’t happen, we shed the lining of our uterus and get our period. If any of these hormones are out of whack, it can cause you to miss your period all together or have irregular periods.

If you think about it very basically, our woman bodies can grow another human being. Besides that being absolutely AMAZING, it’s also a lot of work for the body. So if your body isn’t getting enough calories, enough nutrients, enough sleep or it’s exerting too much energy through exercise, that is going to cause stress. Any sort of emotional stress is also taxing on the body. So if the body is too stressed in any way and especially if it’s lacking in calories and nutrients, the body says, “Ok girl, this is not a healthy environment to grow a baby…so we aren’t menstruating this month.” And that’s when our cycles become irregular or stop altogether.

happy hour Chardonnay + dinner at Tres Carnes

Addtionally, fat cells produce estrogen so if we don’t have enough body fat, we won’t produce enough estrogen and therefore not get a regular period. Furthermore, when cortisol is high, the body is also less sensitive to estrogens. So in that case, it’s not an estrogen deficiency, but rather an altered biological response. So your lab results might come back normal because there’s enough circulating hormone, but there’s still a problem that no amount of synthetic hormone like birth control will fix. Actually, adding more will likely make the problem worse.

Hormonal issues can be so complex, and medication most of the time, is not the solution. It can often mask an underlying cause, and can even be more detrimental in the long run. Birth control almost always is not the answer for amenorrhea, but rather looking at a woman’s entire lifestyle to see where the stress is coming from and making changes to reduce that stress is the answer.

What does nutrition look like? Are you getting enough calories and nutrients?

Is exercise too intense in either quantity or quality?

Is your body weight and/or body fat too low? And that does NOT mean just falling in a normal BMI range.

Is there emotional/mental stress going on?

Is there stress from lack of sleep?

There is so much that goes into a woman’s reproductive health. So I blab on and on about all of this because I think it’s imperative that we as women know about our bodies, so instead of trying to “fix” something with medication, we can take a step back and look at our health as a big picture with so many moving parts and address each part individually.

Health is so much more than your weight and just because you’re a certain BMI, doesn’t mean your body is at a healthy, sustainable weight for you. And once we step into that realization and let our body be the size it’s suppose to be and take care of ourselves, there is so much freedom and true health to be found.


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Comments

  1. Erin says

    August 19, 2015 at 10:39 am

    Congratulations on adding a few hard-earned letters to your name 🙂 That’s so exciting! Thank you for writing this post. I have been so frustrated by doctors telling me that I am “normal” because of my blood work and weight when I know that there MUST be a way to get my period back that doesn’t involve birth control. This was exactly what I needed to read to keep pursuing full recovery and get my body to the place where it needs to be. Thanks again!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:48 pm

      thank you!! I know how you feel being so frustrated and the body can do amazing things to heal if we simply let it! Thinking of you as you find true health 🙂 xoxo

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  2. Savannah says

    August 19, 2015 at 10:47 am

    I just became an RD a few weeks ago- I know your feeling of exaltation! Thank goodness we didn’t have to wait a week for test results, though. That would have killed me! Congrats on becoming an RN! My question for you is: What are your thoughts on using birth control for the sake of pregnancy prevention? I originally got on birth control because (like all the other women you’ve referenced) I didn’t have a period for years.
    Now I’m on birth control because I got married and just am not quite ready to become pregnant. Thoughts? If you’ve already written or spoken about this elsewhere, feel free to just direct me to that link!
    Thanks, Savannah

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    • Megan King says

      August 19, 2015 at 2:17 pm

      Savannah, I too was on birth control originally for “acne” and then because I wasn’t getting periods. I too got married and thought birth control would be a good idea but knew underneath that it would mask normalcy. I knew in order to be healthy I had to go off it and eat enough in order to “earn” my period. My husband and I use condoms and it works just fine. 🙂 I just knew I needed to be off it to monitor whether or not I am getting my period on my own to keep myself in check.

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      • TJ says

        August 20, 2015 at 6:55 am

        I don’t use birth control but use condoms with my long term boyfriend. Also, there is a non-hormonal copper IUD option out there.

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        • Annie says

          August 20, 2015 at 11:57 am

          I switched to the copper IUD and it’s great!

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          • Tyler says

            August 20, 2015 at 4:50 pm

            Last year I finally got the copper iud (paragard) for all the same reasons everyone else mentioned. I love it!!!! Doesn’t interfere with hormones or cycle and its the most effective form of bc out there. After having no period for over a year, I have slowly managed to regain a pretty regular cycle by eating more (and more frequently) and exercising less (not necessarily intensity but definitely quantity). For me it’s peace of mind knowing what’s going on with my body each month rather than masking this with a fake hormonal bc period. If you decide to try the iud make sure you go to a doc who has plenty of experience placing them. Some Drs don’t feel comfortable placing them if you haven’t had a baby bc I think it can be more difficult. My experience was completely fine and only moderately uncomfortable for a short period of time. Good luck!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:51 pm

      That’s a question I get quite often Savannah! Like the other ladies above, I highly recommend the copper IUD. I haven’t had it myself, but have several friends who have and they really love it- or old school condoms work too! But I always say, hormonal BC is the last, last resort I’d recommend. Hope that helps!

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  3. Emily says

    August 19, 2015 at 10:54 am

    Congratulations and welcome back!
    Your post speaks to me, as in June I had my first period in 12.5 years!! (unfortunately it was while I was on a family holiday in Portugal – how’s that for bodily payback?!) I knew I’d probably lost my period when I suffered an eating disorder while at University; but I kidded myself that it never came back because of birth control (implant – which in 70% of cases stops menstruation) rather than hypothalamic amenorrhea. After gaining back some weight and cutting back on the intensive exercise I was shocked at how much I’d hurt my body. I’m glad my body has started to forgive me.
    p.s. what’s on that salad – it looks like mushy peas 🙂

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:52 pm

      So overjoyed for you regaining a cycle after so long! The body is truly amazing at what it can bounce back from!
      And that would be lots of guac 🙂

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  4. Annie says

    August 19, 2015 at 10:55 am

    I got my period at 20 years old and at the time I thought it was because of all the chemo I had when I was young but in hindsight, maybe it was simply because I was restricting/binging and my body wanted nothing to do with periods. My doctor put me on medication to kick-start it when I was 16 which didn’t work and she then put me on the pill so I could be “normal”. I stopped it a couple of years later as had no need for it and got my period the year of my 21st birthday. Thankfully after coming off the pill again a few months ago I’ve had one every month although my cycle is not quite regular yet.
    Thank you for enlightening us all such crucial information!

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  5. Clare @ fitting it all in says

    August 19, 2015 at 10:55 am

    I am SO PROUD OF YOU!!! You are already doing and will continue to do AMAZING things girl .xoxoxoxo

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:55 pm

      thank you so much!! so excited for the years ahead for you! 🙂

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  6. Kate says

    August 19, 2015 at 11:28 am

    God is so so good- all the time.
    So happy for you and your future endeavors. When I was hospitalized for anorexia, the doctors suggested BC, but when I went to treatment they refused the idea. Gaining weight was the only way.
    Now I am on BC, b/c my husband and I aren’t ready for kids, but I sometimes wish we used another method. I believe our periods are such an important way to be in touch with our bodies.
    Again- so happy for you. We are all rooting for you!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:57 pm

      you are so sweet! thank you for all the support and encouragement!
      email me if you’re ever interested in chatting more about non-hormonal options 🙂 xo

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  7. Alison Z says

    August 19, 2015 at 11:57 am

    Robyn, I’ve been doing the progesterone and birth control thing for several years now, so draining! I’m getting married in the fall and will be off the birth control and praying for the best. In the meantime, I just wanted to say a big congratulations! What an enormous accomplishment! You should be so incredibly proud of yourself. You are already doing so much good and this new calling will only expand your impact. I hope you do something awesome to celebrate with the people you love!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you so much Alison! Your support means the world!!

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  8. laura @Sheeatswell says

    August 19, 2015 at 12:03 pm

    Robyn, Congratulations! You continue to be an inspiration to me, as a post-bacc RD student. Loved this post and the message it has.

    I think that an interesting topic (not sure if you’ve covered this yet) for a future Q and A would be the topic of PCOS. I don’t have it, but know many young women that do (and none of them are overweight/have visceral abdominal fat). I feel like tons of young women have PCOS and diet and lifestyle can play a huge role in helping/managing it. Just a thought!

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    • Sarah says

      August 23, 2015 at 2:45 pm

      Yes, I’d like to hear your thoughts about PCOS. I’m affected, but I’m healthy, not overweight, don’t have diabetes or any of the symptoms usually associated with it. Thanks! And congrats on becoming an RN!

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      • Robyn says

        August 31, 2015 at 8:01 pm

        Thanks for the post idea! I’ve talked about PCOS in Q&A videos, but never addressed it in a post but would love to the best I can without interfering with Nutshell since I do have several clients with PCOS- look out for that soon! 🙂

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  9. Katie says

    August 19, 2015 at 12:56 pm

    Thank you sooo much for posting this! I’ve been in HA recovery for a year and I needed to read this today! I’ve really struggled with coming to terms with gaining weight. I’ve already gained about 20 pounds and still no period on my own. I had been on fertility meds but my husband and I decided to stop that. Learning that each body is different has been the biggest hurdle for me lately. So thanks for posting!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:02 pm

      I am so glad to hear you stopped fertility meds to treat HA and are going the natural route- I’m thinking of you and remember that our bodies are simply a shell and people love you for your heart. XOXO

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  10. Shoshana says

    August 19, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Congratulations on becoming an R.N, that’s awesome! Thanks for the great discussion on being kind to our bodies. I couldn’t agree more with you about how important it is to be in tune with our bodies and to really listen so that we can rest when we need it, workout when we need it, and eat when we are hungry. Thanks again 😀

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  11. She Rocks Fitness says

    August 19, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    So I haven’t gotten my period in a while and I know what the problem is, but I want to tell you that my OB wanted to recommend a medication that would force me to get it and then proceeded to tell me that there would be no side effects…SERIOUSLY? How is that possible? I know what I need to do and what I need to work on. I love these educational posts that are also inspirational too. CONGRATS to you and as always your eats look DELISH! XOXO

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:06 pm

      I know your OB had good intentions but I am with you in saying NO! The body is amazing at what it can do to heal – rest, good nutrition and some good self care 🙂 Thinking of you!

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  12. Courtney says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:02 pm

    I love your posts, esp. this one helping women get to the truth of our problems! I know you eat mostly plant based, but one of the biggest ideas behind a paleo/primal diet is to eat for gut health because gut dysbiosis/inflammation can cause us not to absorb the nutrients in the food that we eat (no matter how well we eat!) Regardless of beliefs on the “right” way to eat, I think another very relevant question worth exploring is: Are you absorbing the nutrients in your food or is your hormonal health negatively affected by improper digestion? The link b/w “IBS” symptoms (another medical cop-out) and hormone imbalance/irregular cycles is SO real in my case. I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic sometime.

    A HUGE congrats on the RD!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:08 pm

      I would love to research this more and address it in an upcoming post or Q&A video! Thank you for bringing this to light! And thank you for the congrats 🙂

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  13. amy says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:14 pm

    I was diagnosed with anorexia in my mid twenties. I’d been on birth control since I was 18, so I had no idea how my ED was affecting my cycle and my reproductive health. A few years into recovery, my husband and I decided we were ready to have a baby. I stopped taking the pill and just assumed everything would fall into place. Looking back now, I know my weight was still too low and my exercise was still too intense. We finally went to a fertility doctor after two years of no period. She didn’t seem concerned about my lack of cycle and we got started with treatments. Thankfully, my body responded to the treatments and I have a 14 month old son. I haven’t had a period since he was born, but that could also be due to the fact that I breastfed him for 13 months. We will hopefully be able to have another baby very soon. I am willing to go through treatments again to have a baby and hopefully, we will be successful. After that, I am going to put forth my best effort to get my period back on my own. I know that I have done so much damage to my body over the past 7 years and I hope it will forgive me.

    And congrats on becoming an RN!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:10 pm

      so happy to hear about your precious son 🙂
      take care of yourself as you go into this next pregnancy and because I’m so passionate about it, I’d definitely recommend healing your body before this next pregnancy and even being able to conceive naturally! XOXO

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  14. Brittany @ Barr & Table says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:14 pm

    Congrats lady!! So proud of you for all of your hard work. I absolutely love your posts and just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.

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  15. Mackenzie says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:20 pm

    You are such an inspiration Robin. After battling HA for 2 and a half years and finally overcoming it when I got off the pill and stopped exercising so much, I think this message is so important to get out to everyone. Our bodies are amazing and deserve to be treated that way. Thanks so much for sharing your message. You’ve helped more people than you’ll ever know!

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  16. Emily says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Wow, this is so perfect. After I regained my happy weight, I realized that it wasn’t just weight that affected my period. Stress was probably the 2nd biggest factor, and I’m so glad you’re writing about this. I still have to really be conscious about the stress I undergo everyday. Living life on a slower time schedule has and is making all the difference for me.

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:11 pm

      Yes! Stress management is SO important!! Thanks for sharing. XO

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  17. Rebecca says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:33 pm

    First off, congratulations!! Secondly, what is your opinion on using metformin to deal with androgen excess?

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:11 pm

      I would need to research that more, but my gut instinct is against it simply because that seems to be a quick fix and not getting to the root of the issue. Hope that helps!

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  18. Emily @ Sinful Nutrition says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    God IS good indeed! You are speaking exactly what I am going through right now. Just got back from the doctor’s with normal labs, and her telling me maybe it’s just how my body is. Riiiiggghhttt. I am going for a pelvic ultrasound to rule out PCOS and then to endocrinology if that comes back normal. I refuse to be put back on the pill until I know the real reason I haven’t had a period in almost 2 years.

    Thanks for all your passion and support for women’s health, and a major congrats on all your accomplishments!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:12 pm

      Keep fighting for the real issue and feel free to reach out via email anytime! Thinking of you! xo

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  19. Kate @ Kate Lives Healthy says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:56 pm

    Congratulations! From a fellow RN welcome to the profession! I remember how nervous I was when writing the NCLEX and huge relief that I felt after having it over with.

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  20. Shannon says

    August 19, 2015 at 3:57 pm

    Congrats! That is so awesome! Love this post. Our health system loves to medicate anything and everything! Sad, but true.

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  21. Amy @ UpearlywithAmy says

    August 19, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    First of all, CONGRATS on getting that RN behind your name…that is no small accomplishment! Second, I want to let you know you have truly inspired me over the last couple of months (since I discovered your blog). I’m an RD and I just started an MSW program to get an LCSW, RD, after my name and reading about how you balance school, work, blogging, counseling, and a social life has empowered me to strive for that healthy balance in my own journey. Thank you 🙂

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      So exciting about pursuing your LCSW! My roommate is doing the same thing!
      Ha, its’ messy and often not balanced but somehow it all works at the end of the day 🙂
      Best of luck to you!!

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  22. Jen says

    August 19, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    Congratulations on your RN! You’re well on your way to becoming a nurse practitioner. Medicine needs more people like you I think once you practice medicine (I am a PA) it becomes even more frustrating to see the advice patients with HA and similar issues are given. I am amazed at how many people are treated with prescriptions when it is glaringly obvious that they’re nutrition, stress and exercise levels need desperately to be addressed.

    Any advice on nutrition for women trying to conceive? After being on OCPs for 7 years (which at this point I totally regret) my husband and I started trying to get pregnant last year. I had a miscarriage and subsequent D&C and since then no success :-/ I’ve read a lot online about an alkaline diet and I’m not sure what to think about the science behind that. Certainly the foods on the alkaline list are all healthful. any thoughts?

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:32 pm

      I love that you are a PA thinking that way!! Keeping being awesome 🙂
      Email me to chat more about conceiving naturally after OCPs! [email protected]

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  23. Kate @mindfoodly says

    August 19, 2015 at 7:48 pm

    I love this, I have so many issues with BMI as I don’t believe it gives an accurate depiction of what each individuals healthy is.

    I know for me I am recovering from an ED and am in the weight gain phase. I am not sure where my period is at because I have been put on birth control. I think this is such an important post because so many women think it is ok to not get your period but it is just wrong!

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  24. Aniqa says

    August 19, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    this post is just what I needed to read. No one ever really realizes how much they are affecting their body by what they eat or the lack of proper nutrients. Thank you for this post and congrats on officially becoming an RD! You deserve it!!

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  25. Melissa says

    August 19, 2015 at 11:13 pm

    Congratulations on becoming an RN! I cannot imagine the relief and joy you feel right now over that accomplishment, it is well deserved! I just wanted to add to the other voices commenting on this post and to say thank you for posting about a topic that personally hits home for me right now. I have been struggling with HA for a little over three years now and ironically have an appointment with my OBGYN tomorrow. This post just reinforces the decision I made earlier to avoid taking birth control, knowing it would only mask the bigger issue underlying my absent periods. Thanks again for speaking such truth to me and everyone else struggling with the same issues, its one of the reasons I love reading your blog!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:33 pm

      Thinking of you as you regain your cycle naturally! Rest, good nutritious food and lots of self care to manage stress and the body can do amazing things!! xo

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  26. Leah says

    August 20, 2015 at 12:01 am

    A huge congrats on passing your boards! Yay for becoming an RN!
    Great post! Do you have any thoughts or what does research say about women who get their periods too often or for long periods of time with bleeding? I’m a mom and have so many friends with frequent and/or long periods. Most doctors just put them on Bc. Any other advice?

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:35 pm

      That’s typically a sign that female hormones are off and how to go about healing will differ based on individual circumstances. Email me to chat more! [email protected] 🙂

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  27. Erin M. says

    August 20, 2015 at 5:43 am

    Congratulations!! That’s such a great accomplishment!!

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  28. Dee says

    August 20, 2015 at 10:07 am

    Robyn, Congratulations! You have been instrumental in my recovery progress-both in working with you and following your blog. I am thrilled for you and I know you are going to be a wonderful advocate (especially for women) in your life. Many of us do not hear this information so spelled out anywhere else. The article you wrote fits me entirely. I finally have regained my period after over 2 years. It did (and does) take a lot of replaying your voice in my mind and rereading your information. My PMS symptoms seem extreme with bouts of intense irritabily, anger and also spotting almost daily (for about the last 6 months or so). Do you have any information on how long it can take to even things out after a woman has gone an extended time without normal menstration? I want to thank you for sharing your spirituality with us as well. It’s uplifting. Thank you and so happy for your accomplishments!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      It’s a joy to work with you! Thank you so much for your support!
      It’s not typical to have extreme PMS and daily spotting six months out so I would talk with your doc about that- I’m happy chat further too via email! XO

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  29. Ellen C. says

    August 20, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    Robyn, Congratulations on the RN! WhooHoo! I hope you have been seriously celebrating. I just wanted to say how much I appreciated your post. I do not have major current issues, but the first thing I thought of was I wish that more people in Medicine (Drs especially) had a background in Nutrition like you do. You understand how food affects the body and how it is much better than a medication. It is sad how others have mentioned that they have been given a medication, when it is something else that can be fixed with something easier and better for the body than a medication of one sort or another. Keep up the great work for Women.

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  30. sarah says

    August 20, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    Great post Robyn! You are such an inspiration to me and so many women.

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  31. Ashley P says

    August 20, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Great post! I am currently dealing with HA. I went off birth control in October because I knew it was just giving me a fake period. I’m now trying to eat more food and more frequently. It can be difficult though as I am not always hungry but I am definitely putting in more effort than I used to and eating higher calorie foods. Hopefully I’ll heal my body soon.

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  32. Ashley V says

    August 21, 2015 at 6:14 pm

    Congratulations!! God is so good.
    Thanks for this post. I’m currently recovering (correct word choice?) from HA. I was on BC for about 9 months because I was afraid of osteopenia, and I wanted to be able to keep running (which was certainly a contributing factor to my HA). I finally stopped because I wanted to solve the problem, not stick a band-aid on it. I gained about 15 pounds and am struggling with that fact, even though I have had several periods since I went off of BC. It is still a little touch and go, but the fact that I’ve had any cycles after not having any for a long time is encouraging. You remind me of one of my closest friends who just finished her DNP and deeply loves women’s health. I am so glad to have her and to have your blog in my life!

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  33. Abby says

    August 22, 2015 at 2:02 am

    I wish I had read this post 10 years ago! I was not underweight, I did not over exercise and my diet hasn’t changed all that much. BUT, my mind, oh my mind. I was a binger and a restricter. Not restrictive of calories but rather food choices. I ate a diet close to what you demonstrate, but without your moderation. “Healthy food” was all I could eat. Straying from that path led to binges which eventually led to me trying to get enough “willpower” to get back on it again. This vicious cycle continued for 5 years- as did my lack of period. I too checked out fine at the doctor and was put on birth control. It never felt quite right and I stopped taking it. After one particularly bad episode I hit my knees and asked God for a way out. The next day I found a therapist and at our preliminary appointment her first questions was about my cycle. I was stunned. I never knew the two were related. From that month on I had a regular period. It was as if my body just needed me to know. I’ve been in recovery since that time (another 5 year process) and have come so very far and I haven’t missed a period since!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing your story of recovery!! I know women reading this will relate- keep shining light in a dark place Abby! 🙂

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  34. Sara @ Oats & Rows says

    August 25, 2015 at 11:34 am

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  35. Elizabeth says

    August 28, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    This is so inspirational. I’ve not had a period for years and have been put on birth control, I’m told until my first pregnancy at least (which, let me tell you, is not on my horizon at the moment!). I am only starting to come to terms with the fact that I need to stress less, exercise less and eat more (and necessarily gain more weight, even though I’m within a ‘healthy BMI range’, which, you know, doesn’t mean a whole lot really). Thank you!!

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    • Robyn says

      August 31, 2015 at 8:39 pm

      Remember you are SO much more than your pant size and true health goes far beyond BMI!
      Thinking of you girl 🙂

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  36. Rachel says

    September 6, 2015 at 6:57 am

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A little way I’m learning to enjoy these years o A little way I’m learning to enjoy these years of getting to spend so much time with my kids: aka another way I’m discovering some pockets of peace so my heart & mind & soul don’t crumble under the reality of dependent & emotionally dysregulated tiny humans.  About once a week we go somewhere for baked goods. We drive or walk, buy something buttery & then find a beautiful, relatively quiet outdoor spot where the boys can romp and I can sit and think my thoughts while I watch them play. This past week we were found ourselves at the Wool Factory where the boys threw rocks & whatever else off the bridge while I ate 90% of this almond 🥐 from @coucourachou that will blow your mind. Boys ate the other 10% bc they were busy playing and didn’t ask for more quickly enough 😜  I’m finding *for me* playgrounds have a time & place but they aren’t where I enjoy motherhood & my two toddlers the most. Baked goods & a pretty outdoor spot without high drops my 15 month old could launch himself off of…I’m here for it.
I brought this bag of snacks along when I took the I brought this bag of snacks along when I took the boys to hike out at one of our favorite spots last week and when I ripped it open I was regretting my choice to share them with my kids. @baresnacks randomly sent me a box of snacks and I usually eat free food we receive or give it to a friend/neighbor and move on. But I felt it my duty to tell you about these bc they are THAT GOOD. I’m not getting paid and this isn’t sponsored - I was just shocked at how tasty these were and felt you needed to know. We ate them with some buttery roasted nuts and the combo was 👌🏻 but they are good just on their own.  The boys climbed rocks and swam in the reservoir - leave it to my almost 3 year old to want to strip down naked and fully submerge himself in chilly water on a sixty degree morning. “Mama can I get super nakey?” Sure baby. Sure. This is your childhood.
It’s a hard sell to get me to accept an offer of It’s a hard sell to get me to accept an offer of extended alone time away from the babies to just be. And that isn’t something that’s best for me, it’s an area I gotta grow in. So this afternoon when Nick pushed me out the door and was like - get out of here plzzzz - I walked to my favorite cafe and ordered a thick pastrami sandwich and sat there for a good LONG while before taking a long, peaceful walk in the rain to wrap up the afternoon. Note to self: stop being such a control freak and go be by yourself sometimes.
a girlfriend brought me a 🍪 the size of my face a girlfriend brought me a 🍪 the size of my face from @mariebettecafe this morning when she came to get her toddler who played with us all morning and it is v good. even better when paired with an iced latte 😍
#AlignPartner I left off a few weeks ago sharing a #AlignPartner I left off a few weeks ago sharing about how taking @alignprobiotic regularly has improved my digestive regularity.  And I’m still taking them! I’ve permanently added Align 24/7 Digestive Support* into the roundup of supplements I take before bed (prenatal, vitamin D, choline & DHA - all which help keep me healthy while breastfeeding) so I can keep seeing the benefits.  Just because you see benefits, doesn’t mean you should stop taking your probiotic. Keep taking Align daily (under the supervision and recommendation of your health care provider of course) to keep seeing the benefits!  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again - one of my favorite parts of Align probiotics is that they don’t need refrigeration AND they come in a convenient little blister pack that has the days labeled. It’s the little things people! #MyAlignGuutJourney #guthealth  *These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
I realized it was going to be a long, hot afternoo I realized it was going to be a long, hot afternoon (91 and muggy in MAY 🤯) when a toddler nap was refused and a baby nap was cut wildly short ....so my tired mom brain pulled out two plastic storage bins, filled them up with soap & hose water and striped ‘em down naked in the yard. Two hours later, it was almost time for an early dinner and I had magically been able to sit for most of that time and we already had baths checked off the list. 👍🏻 I’m archiving this idea for my future self, hope it helps another tired mama out.
#AlignPartner I left off a month ago sharing about #AlignPartner I left off a month ago sharing about getting better at doing the basics to care for myself which included taking my supplements and @alignprobiotic regularly.  Probiotics take time to work so I wanted to give it a full month to see the full effects of @alignprobiotic. So here are my honest thoughts: it took a few weeks to notice any differences, but near the end of the month I did notice some changes in my digestive balance - even while traveling! I’m not someone who experiences occasional gas, bloating or abdominal discomfort frequently enough to notice a difference, so I don’t feel like I can comment on how well Align works for those benefits.  All in all though, taking @alignprobiotic was a positive experience and I really appreciated how the capsules don’t need to be stored in the fridge, making it convenient to take them with me anywhere #MyAlignGuutJourney #guthealth  *These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
Where we will spend a good majority of our summer. Where we will spend a good majority of our summer. Because the swampy VA summer has already begun (it’s in the low 90s today 🥵 lord help) and creeks are our retreat - not only from the heat but also from the noisy world. I need this just (if not more) than they do! We’ll be at the splash pads and pools too, but the quietness of the creek...my mental health is so about it. And it’s hours of play for them! Win win.  A couple things to note: this scene also included a few toddler reminders on finding another direction to throw rocks instead of at his brother - so not all is serene 🤪 and also, yes I am now that mom who buys the same clothing for both kids bc it keeps things simple & i think i kinda like it too 🤷🏻‍♀️
Things I love about midwifery among many: the appo Things I love about midwifery among many: the appointments, no matter how long, feel so unhurried. 
Just walked in from an appointment with my midwife because I was due for a Pap test + an overall wellness visit. My last pap was during my first trimester with Cal which feels like a jillion years ago, but it’s only actually been three years. Life changes so fast! Pre-baby life feels like a whole other life.  I’m wayyyy overdue for a visit to my PCP bc I’ve been under OBGYN or midwifery care for the majority of the past three years while having babies, but I am pretty good with keeping up with my paps. It seems women often think they need pap and/or HPV testing way more frequently than they do (and providers sometimes perform these tests more frequently than necessary - remember more testing doesn’t always mean better outcomes!)  So if you need it, here’s a quick little reminder on this chilly spring Friday afternoon on how often you need this testing (these are the recommendations from ACOG)  Women aged 21–29 years should have a Pap test alone every 3 years. HPV testing is not recommended.  Women aged 30–65 years should have a Pap test and an HPV test (aka co-testing) every 5 years (preferred). It also is acceptable to have a Pap test alone every 3 years.  If you get abnormal results, this testing frequency could change - but for healthy women with normal results, you actually don’t need testing as frequently as you might think. Which is great news for those of you who hate the speculum.  Ok, off to finish up some things on the to-do list (including cleaning this kitchen) during nap time and then come 5 o’clock, crack an IPA with our neighbors 🍻
#AlignPartner Over the past seven months since bec #AlignPartner Over the past seven months since becoming a mom of two, caring for myself has gotten shoved to the back burner. And it's been a challenge to make it a priority. My routine-resistant personality has upsides and downsides when it comes to motherhood. So I'm starting small this year with a consistent bedtime routine that includes taking my supplements and @alignprobiotic and hoping as that becomes consistent, my mornings will naturally shift too.  In short my bedtime currently goes like this….jammies & face care when putting the babies to bed. Before I go to bed (anytime between 9pm and 12am...) I’ll pump, take my supplements and fill my water. Then I go upstairs and brush my teeth. And then get in bed. The kicker: 70% of the time I find myself finishing up tasks on my phone IN BED. I hate this habit.  Back to supplements. This is something I have been able to stick with. On top of fish oil, my prenatal, choline and vitamin D, I recently added @AlignProbiotic 24/7 Digestive Support*§ to see if it helps with abdominal discomfort and regularity because when I don’t drink coffee or am traveling that can get thrown off.  I’ll be taking it every day for the next 28 days since it takes TIME for our bodies to adjust to probiotics - and I'll be taking you guys along with me as I share my honest thoughts. Many people think if they don’t see changes within the first 7-10 days then the probiotic isn’t working, but that’s not the case. I’m giving myself more than just a week or two and instead a full month to see the full benefits. I’ll keep you posted over the next month. Check out my stories to learn more! #MyAlignGutJourney #guthealth
 
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We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care f We had an AFTERNOON today. Toddler didn’t care for a nap. Putting baby down was harder than I wanted it to be. Miraculously, I had a moment of clarity as I was covered in tiny humans and decided I wasn’t doing the nap battle thing a on 60 degree, gorgeous, sunny spring day 🙅🏻‍♀️ so I piled both babies into the car half naked, opened the sun roof, put on white noise for them and an audio book for me and drank a kombucha as I drove a meal to a postpartum mama. Thirty five minutes later we had a sleeping baby and a toddler who at least had a rest. Baby transferred without waking HALLELUJAH and although my toddler didn’t nap today (lord help) at least we got soaked in breezy sunshine 😎🤘🏻💆🏻‍♀️
We veered from our usual Friday night homemade piz We veered from our usual Friday night homemade pizza (minus the dough, we leave that to @albemarlebakingco) because we are eating pizza tomorrow with some friends - instead I called my mom and asked her how she makes her chicken fingers and we fried up a big ole batch of chicken nugs 🙌🏻🤤 along with a sheet pan full of sweet potato fries and a simple arugula salad dressed with parmesean, olive oil and s&p. Oh and my moms honey mustard recipe for dipping. It’s SO DANG GOOD.  Over the past 6ish months we’ve been practicing (and practicing and practicing bc it doesn’t come naturally) unplugging from technology and slowing down and resting and just being for one day a week. Some call it Shabbat. Some call it Sabbath. Maybe you call it something different. All I know is IT IS SO GOOD FOR MY WEARY SOUL and the day I look forward to ALL WEEK. Sundown on Friday to sundown Saturday. Nothing but rest. For us that means hiking (or something outside) and napping and reading and being with friends and eating really good food. And drinking some really good wine or craft beer. Sometimes whiskey. 😛  And because I know I’ll get asked about the chicken finger recipe and also because it’s too good not to share and Momma Coale said I could, here ya go:  Cut chicken breast into thin strips or small pieces (I prefer nug size bc the breading to chicken ratio is perfection). Salt and pepper those babies really well. Then dredge them in all purpose flour, then egg, then panko - just like you would bread anything else. Then fry them up in a light oil - I use avocado oil because that’s our everyday oil. You could also use canola or peanut oil. Just fill a pan with an inch or so of oil on medium high heat. They only take 2-3 minutes per side. You can always temp them to make sure they are at least 165 degrees F to really make sure they are done. Dunk in all the sauces and enjoy!  Happy weekend!

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