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Eating Disorders, Food Freedom, Life, Self Care

How To Enjoy The Holidays Instead Of Obsessing Over The Food

November 23, 2016 By Robyn 7 Comments

I love Thanksgiving. And not just like a mediocre love, I LOVE this holiday. The food, the people, the parade, the slowness of the day…everything. Love it.

But just as much as I love the holiday season, I could do without all the “how to stay healthy during the holidays” garbage. Like I haaatteeeee it. Ugh.

You shouldn't be wasting the holidays worrying about your food choices. Relax! | The Real Life RD

Sorry to rain on the naturally sweetened pie and grain free casserole, but the holidays weren’t meant to be 100% healthy.

The holidays aren’t about saying no to dessert or militantly portion controlling or working out to burn off whatever calories. And the holidays aren’t about spending November to January being obsessed with not being victim to weight gain.

The holidays are about being with those you love, slowing down, eating awesome food just because it’s awesome and homemade, soaking up the season, and letting it just be that.

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We give way too much attention to the nutrient and calorie profile of holiday food and weight gain—like how many healthier green bean casserole recipes and winter workout routines do we actually need? Somebody post something original to Pinterest. PLEASE.

Because instead, if we begin to just focus on taking care of ourselves, resting, loving on our friends and family, and serving others, then we obsess less, or better yet stop obsessing — and the food becomes a way we celebrate and share this season with others instead of something we exhaust ourselves over.

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Because when you’re taking care of yourself and being present with family and friends you focus on what actually matters. It doesn’t become full on gluttony followed by guilt because its “only once a year.” Both restricting food and making yourself ill from eating just because it’s there distracts from what the holidays are actually about. When we’re numbing with food, we’re numbing our experiences too.

The food will always be there. I know it’s hard to remember but it’s so true.

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Yes, eat some things you don’t eat year round. Enjoy those foods. But the important thing is to be intentional about what you’re eating – whether that’s 1, 2 or 3 pieces of pumpkin pie or it’s kale salad, make a conscious choice to eat it because that’s what you WANT to eat and that’s what will SATISFY YOU. If you eat the pie, eat the pie and enjoy it. And if you eat the kale salad, eat the kale salad because you enjoy that. Eat it with intention and enjoy it because it satisfies your soul. The holidays are 6 weeks, not six months. Eating out of routine is part of the season.

Also, remember, just because it’s on the table doesn’t mean it has to go in your mouth. Choose what you actually want and taste each bite. Just because it’s there doesn’t mean you have to eat it because “it’s only once a year.”

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Most importantly, remember any of these foods can be eaten anytime of the year. When we compartmentalize food is when we fall into the “I’ll never eat this again” trap leading to eating plateful after plateful. Then you feel stuffed and gross and now you’re  frustrated at yourself and you forget how the food even tasted. And then you being telling yourself, “that wasn’t even worth it.” Because instead of enjoying the food, the food was glorified. With all the diet talk it’s so easy to get caught in this place. I’ve totally been there, so if you have too its okay. You’re not alone.

You have the freedom to eat anything you want, anytime you want. No food is forbidden and no food is good or bad. Food is just food. Let it be that so you can get on living instead.

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So exercise because it feels good.

Eat that piece of pie because your momma made it with love.

Eat that sweet potato casserole because it’s so dang good.

Cozy up on the couch because resting and relaxing is needed.

And get busy soaking up the holiday season instead of obsessing over it.

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Comments

  1. Abby says

    November 23, 2016 at 8:08 am

    What a great post, Robyn! So true and such a timely reminder for all of us to just let ourselves “off the hook” and enjoy the holidays without drowning in guilt. Your posts have helped me internalize that simple truth: “eat when you’re hungry, stop when you’re not.” It’s been freeing! Thank you.

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  2. Raquel says

    November 23, 2016 at 11:31 am

    This was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you, as always, for all that you do!

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  3. Bethany @LuluRuns says

    November 23, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    I was JUST thinking about this exact topic yesterday. I remember a couple years ago, when I was in the midst of an ED, how I stressed, calculated, and tried to, “lighten up,” the holidays. I was thinking to myself yesterday, just how much a couple years changes things. A marriage, a baby boy, and a few healthy pounds heavier, have made me see things in SUCH a different light. Yes, I still eat healthy and yes, I sill love to workout during this season, but hello, I’m going to enjoy that slice of pie and eat it with 0 guilt, because I can. The holidays are SO much more fulfilling when I’m not counting and stressing over calories. This season, I’m going to enjoy and savor each moment.

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  4. Connie Weissmuller says

    November 23, 2016 at 5:08 pm

    Agreed 110% with all of this! Thank you for this wonderful reminder to ENJOY! Wishing you and your friends and family the sweetest holiday season Robyn.

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  5. Heather @ Polyglot Jot says

    November 23, 2016 at 6:18 pm

    So love this!! Thanks for the reminder! I hope that you enjoy Thanksgiving!

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  6. Megan says

    November 24, 2016 at 8:35 am

    Yasss. Screaming this from the rooftops today and everyday. Praying that we learn to cultivate intention and presence and we check the idea of perfection at the door. There’s just too much to enjoy in this life. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving Robyn!!

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  7. Megan @ A Continual Feast Blog says

    November 24, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    PREACH!!! Enjoy your Thanksgiving, Robyn!

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