I use to think I didn’t have anytime to read. I wanted to read more, but never had 20 or 30 minutes or an hour to sit down and open a book. And, if I’m honest, scrolling social media was more enticing in the moment even if it wasn’t actually restful or life giving. I think social media can be a really good thing, but it can also be a really, not-a-good-thing.
I wax and wane with social media boundaries (because it’s so easy to get pulled back in!!) ….ideally, I want to only be on it for 10-20 minutes during nap times and use most of that time to post or reply to DMs. Ideally, I like to take weekends off and the last 5 days of every month. I deleted the Facebook app from my phone so I only bop on there if I’m on my laptop. And my notifications for every single app on my phone (including texts) are off. These lines in the sand (when I’m actually adherent lol) are SO FREAKING GOOD. I feel less bogged down, happier, more present and less stressed when I’m living inside these lines.
But….I’m naturally a line crosser. Like, with everything in life. I both love and hate this quality about myself. According to Gretchen Rubin’s 4 Tendencies, I’m a Rebel. I think being an Upholder would be nice. But I guess that’s not how I’m wired. What I’m trying to say is…..someone (or myself) tells me not to do something and I immediately want to do that thing even more. I’m like a toddler living in a 30 year old body.
Okayyyy, back to the point of this post.
I want to read more books! Also, when I say read books, what I mean is both read & listen. That’s my definition, ok? It adds so much to my mental & emotional health. And when these technology boundaries are in place, I have WAY more time than I think to read.
When I’m picking up the house. Throwing in a load of laundry. Cooking. Jogging. During nap times on the weekend. When I’m driving or we are walking somewhere. These minutes add up! And instead of carrying my phone into bed like it’s a sentimental comfort item or something, it’s charged in the kitchen and instead I can curl up with an actual book. This idea is radical to me ….because scrolling through social media or googling something on my phone before I go to bed feels weirdly indulgent. Like I shouldn’t be doing it because I know it does nothing for my well being, but I do it anyways. Conscious self sabotage.
I LOVE my library card. Ever since I got one last fall after a decade without, I read more. Because all books are free! And that includes e-books and audio books.
You may or may not care, but if you do …here’s what I’m reading & listening to lately.
I love Emily P. Freeman. Straight up soul food, this woman. She also has a podcast called The Next Right Thing and each episode is 10ish minutes and it’s the best way to spend a quick drive. You will get out of your car and your body will feel looser, more relaxed.
A friend told me about Janet Lansbury a few months ago and I’m so glad I found her. JANET LANSBURY, I LOVE YOU. There are a zillion different parenting philosophies and many nurturing ways you can raise babies, but her philosophy (well, I guess it’s not “hers” but she’s an expert of the RIE philosophy) deeply resonates with me. And also challenges me because it goes against my natural tendency. I have a 9 month old that is resembling more of a toddler with each passing week and her approach and tips have actually worked. BLESS. She also has a podcast I’ll link to below.
I think everything Brené Brown writes is worth reading. This book is next on my list. I gifted this book to everyone on my team last Christmas and haven’t read it myself. Feel free to judge me. My library has like 394839 holds on this, so I’m buying the hard copy on Amazon. I’ll probably want to mark it up anyways. If you’ve read it, let me know in the comments!
I’m including podcasts on here because I love a good podcast. And what I really love these days are informative podcasts about topics I want to learn more about vs fun conversation like podcasts. Those are great too, but I’m in a season of life where time is limited and I want to learn, so listening is the best way for me to find time to do that right now. I don’t have hours a day to pour through PubMed or read lots of real (aka hard copy) books. And podcasts are more interesting to listen to than audio books. I love a good audio book, but I can’t listen for hours on end. I could devour episode after episode of a good podcast. Here are the ones I’m regularly listening to right now.
I just discovered Allie and this woman pumps me up!! If you’re into business or simplifying motherhood, I highly recommend.
This is Janet Lansbury’s podcast that Nick actually told me about lol right after a friend told me about her. I’m not sure how he found it, but I feel so encouraged (not shamed) to do better every time I listen.
I wouldn’t say I agree with everything on this podcast – but if I want to learn about a women’s health topic, this has been a good listen. The OBGYNs are full of knowledge and I resonate with a lot of what they share, but I also disagree with some stuff too and some of their approaches to different topics. They don’t have an IE/HAES approach (which most providers don’t so that’s a high expectation on my end) but overall, I’ve found it informative and entertaining. I appreciate them encouraging conversation around taboo women’s health topics.
I subscribe to the Skimm emails, but tbh…I never read them. My inbox is already full enough and I just don’t want to spend the time when I’m answering email to go and read through it. BUT, I will listen! So being able to listen to the quick 10-13 minute episodes while I’m folding laundry or cleaning up the dishes has kept me better up to date with current events because I suck at keeping up with current events. It’s actually embarrassing how bad I am at it. I’m working on it, alright.
Okay, I love you guys. Tell me what you’re listening to or reading in the comments. I’m always wanting to add to my list!
I listen to podcasts while I workout at home in the mornings and while I get ready for my day. Right now I’m loving For the Love with Jen Hatmaker and Pantsuit Politics which is by two women from opposite sides of the political aisle sharing current events.
I’ll have to check those two out!
I completely can relate with the “I don’t have time to read” really being, I don’t make time to read. Reading more has been my goal recently and while I’m not perfect at it, I’m getting better. I love to hear what other people are reading since I’m always on the hunt for a good book! “Educated” was one of the best books I’ve read recently as well as the “Gifts of Imperfection.”
I’ve heard great things about Educated!
I’ve had all notifications on my phone (besides calls) turned off for a couple years now and love it as well! I’m about to have a baby so I was curious how you found that system works for you with a little one in the mix – I guess if something is urgent, I’ll get a phone call, but in terms of communicating via text with Nick when you’re out the house or a babysitter if you’re both away, etc. Interested in how it’s worked for you!
Wellll we haven’t really had babysitters lol, but with Nick I make it so if he calls or texts it makes a sound (even while I have my phone on silent) so he can always get a hold of me. Congrats on your baby!!
I’ve discovered that boundaries with social media and my phone in general have given me more time to read. I’ve been trying to leave my phone in a separate room when I’m working or when I have free time that I can use use to read. Even if I have nothing going on in my phone (my social media is as dry as a desert and no one texts me) I STILL find myself almost instinctively reaching for my phone to scroll through.
Podcasts that I’m loving:
Journeywomen with Hunter Beless
Real Christianity- Dale and Veronica Partridge
Girls Night with Stephanie May Wilson
Made for this – Jennie Allen
I’ll have to check these out – I love Jennie Allen!
Monica M says
I highly recommend the podcast Sawbones. It’s a married couple-wife is a doctor, husband is a hilarious McElroy brother. It’s a great time! A lot of medical history and comedy. I love love love it.
Ohhhhh that sounds like a mood lifter!
I am reading “Crazy” by Pete Earley, which is about his sons journey through mental illness. My mental health professor mentioned in class a few weeks ago. It’s so interesting. If I listen to podcasts, it’s normally: The Empowered Nurse by Lacey Magen, Nourishing Women’s Podcast, and RD Real Talk. But because of nursing school, I don’t have much time to read 🙂
I need to add the Empowered Nurse to my list!
Rachel Hyman says
I have LOVED reading since I was a child. Lost touch with it and didn’t make the time.
Recently I started reading again and finished 10 books in about two months.
I LOVE it.
Summer of 69, What Alice Forgot, The Nightingale are a few of my recents. Love getting lost in a book and the quiet it encourages.
You just motivated me to delete Facebook off of my phone – woot woot!! Mindless waste of time and for awhile I was on it way too much!
Deleting FB has been so great for me! Hope it is for you too 🙂
Rachel A HYMAN says
Absolute GAMECHANGER! Life is so much better. No more being triggered by various posts and focusing on better things 🙂
Dare to Lead is a great book! If you like parenting books, I LOVE the books The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline by Dr. Dan Seigel and Tina Payne Bryson. The Whole Brain Child is based on neuroscience and is so entertaining while still being informative. It’s a must read if you want to understand how kids brains work! No Drama Discipline will be great for when the baby enters toddlerhood and beyond. I feel like it took all of the frustration (well not all of it) out of responding to toddler tantrums. I’m a child therapist and I always recommend it to teachers, colleagues, and parents. https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/B007N4PFG0/ref=sr_1_3?crid=CMSB8UICS0AZ&keywords=the+whole+brain+child&qid=1569321055&s=gateway&sprefix=the+whole+brain+%2Caps%2C163&sr=8-3
Educating yourself is one of the best ways to lose and keep weight off. I’m also so grateful I found https://tinyurl.com/Keto2019 . Hope it helps some others.
Hi Robyn, I believe the Next Right Thing is a good book so good choice on that. I’m currently reading The One Thing by Gary Keller. It’s one amazing book which can help you a lot in every aspect of your life. Of course, if you take the necessary action and do the things from it. If you haven’t checked it out yet give it a look. You may like it.