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5 Steps to Cope With Diet Talk

November 1, 2017 By Robyn 43 Comments

I had a reader comment on a post a while back (I forget the post now, but wrote down her question) and she was wondering how to redirect diet talk when she’s around friends. I loved how she referenced Mean Girls in explaining the way she feels.

She explained how she finds herself contributing to diet/body shaming conversations even though her thoughts/beliefs go against diet culture because she doesn’t want to feel left out and wants to create a sense of connection with people. She equated it to Lindsay Lohan in Mean Girls when all the girls are standing in front of the mirror calling out all their flaws and Lindsay, in order to relate and connect, chimes in with, “uhh…I have bad breath in the morning.”

It can be hard to stand out and resist cultural norms. In the same way it’s difficult to redirect conversation and not partake in gossip, it’s also really hard to separate yourself, not contribute to diet conversation and even redirect diet conversation.

It's hard to be in the world around a whole lot of diet talk. Here are some tips to redirect the conversation. | The Real Life RD

I can certainly relate to this reader’s question. In the beginning stages of my anti-diet/intuitive eating journey I wasn’t confident enough to reject diet talk in conversations with others. There were times when I responded with, “uh huh…yea…I get that.” when somebody was talking about their body, what they ate, weight loss or whatever.

But over time, what I’ve learned professionally and personally is that if I remain passive to diet culture and don’t boldly reject diet talk…diet culture will persist. And it will affect me. It’s like getting on a kayak going downstream and hoping to make it upstream without paddling. It just doesn’t happen.

So how do we directly or indirectly refuse to participate in conversations centered around diet culture? And how do we positively contribute to conversations/relationships in a way that moves people away from diet culture?

1. CREATE AN ANTI DIET BUBBLE FOR YOURSELF

Just like an alcoholic needs a community + support in order to protect against relapse, the same goes from escaping diet culture. When I embraced the HAES/IE philosophy and rejected diet culture for myself…I actually became more aware of all the diet messages around me. They are EVERYWHERE. Stop following social media accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. Maybe it’s time to take a break from a relationship that involves a lot of diet talk. If it’s difficult to find friendships/relationships that support anti-diet culture, there are online communities and podcasts/blogs to read that can help create that bubble for you right away. The more your mind is engaged with anti-diet culture and not with diet culture…the less vulnerable you become when diet talk does come up.

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2. SET FIRM BOUNDARIES 

You have the right to set boundaries on your relationships. Boundaries make for good and healthy relationships. You are also allowed to change these boundaries whenever you see fit. Just because you use to participate in diet talk or body shaming doesn’t mean you have to today or in the future.

What does setting boundaries look like?

Maybe when the topic arises, you gently tell the person/people that you’re not interested in talking about food or exercise or bodies. Maybe you redirect the conversation. Saying, “Hey, let’s talk about something different. How was your weekend?” is a simple and less direct way to change topics. If you want to be more direct…”I don’t really want to talk about that stuff anymore.” can communicate your feelings pretty clearly.

Remember that you may have to remind people in your life more than once. Diet talk is mainstream, it’s expected. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it. Try to be understanding if you know they really are trying to change.

3. YOU ARE NOT A SPONGE

You don’t have to absorb everything around you. This can be hard in the beginning of your journey….really hard. But visualize being a brick vs a sponge. A brick absorbs very little. A sponge absorbs a whole lot. You have the choice to decide what you going to engage in and absorb and what you are going to let roll off you. Thoughts and opinions are just what people are offering up. They are not facts or truth.

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4. DECIDE IF YOU WANT TO EDUCATE PEOPLE ON NON DIET CULTURE

After creating boundaries to protect you from triggering diet talk, you now have the freedom to decide how much you want to explain yourself or educate others. You don’t have to say anything if you don’t want to. Or even if you want to, it might not be the right time or place to do so. People will be open to the conversation at different points in time, and that’s important to remember.

If you do want to share with others, think about how much pushback you can handle. Know when too much resistance is too much so you can leave or redirect the conversation when needed. Sometimes, engaging in a “debate” like conversation can do more harm than good.

5. KNOW THAT JUST BY LIVING YOUR LIFE, OTHERS WILL BE AFFECTED

It’s not your job to convince anyone. You are not responsible for others lives or choices. It’s probably only a good idea to share your opinion on anti-diet culture, intuitive eating, and HAES when you feel steady in your beliefs and choices. It’s okay to not be there yet, this is a journey and you have your whole life to spread the message 🙂

When you start living your life in a way that rejects diet culture and embraces IE and HAES your demeanor will change in positive ways. People will see this in the way you live your life and interact with others. When you start to believe in yourself, accept your natural body size, and trust in your body it will be very apparent to others around you. In turn, you will be sending all sorts of subtle messages even when you’re not overtly advocating for this way of living. You will be living your life in a way that indirectly shares the message without you even realizing it.

Remember you have a right to set boundaries. Remember you are not a sponge. Remember that people don’t change overnight. They aren’t going to give up diet and body talk right away. We have all been living in this diet culture for years. And remember that you will continually encounter diet messages, but you are in control of what you let bounce off you and what you let absorb and take root.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this…

What are ways you have been able to reject diet culture in your life? How have you set boundaries in conversations and relationships? How have you created your own non-diet bubble?


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  1. Daniela says

    November 1, 2017 at 8:34 am

    Love this post! I was talking about this topic in a group recently and someone suggested this idea: if a friend/loved one/whoever is using diet talk to talk about themselves or putting themselves down (e.g. “I look so fat in this picture!”/”I really need to lose x lbs before that vacation”/whatever) it could be helpful to say something like “man, I really hate to hear you talk about yourself like that!” or “I hate to see that you feel that way about yourself”, and follow up and ask them why they think that and tell them that they are such a kind and important person, and it makes you sad that they say unkind things about themselves. Obviously this is only appropriate for certain situations and one-on-one situations, but can be useful if you think that person may be struggling with diet/restricted behaviors. It could make a light bulb go off in their head and plant a seed that something can be wrong with the way they think about their body. If they aren’t, such a simple could do a good job of helping them notice how harmful and pointless it is to talk bad about their bodies, and that other people are noticing it. Let me know what you think!

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      Love this Daniela….this could be a great way to planting a seed!

      Reply
  2. Annie says

    November 1, 2017 at 9:08 am

    Thank you Robyn for a great post! Do you have any advice on how to deal with people (particularly in the workplace) commenting on physical appearance? Even though I know they don’t mean any harm, I always feel uncomfortable when others make comments about my looks, specifically my weight. Last week I had food poisoning and had to go into work the next morning. The amount of people who said I looked “slimmer” was overwhelming and shot my self confidence. Was I only looking slimmer because I was sick the night before? I wan’t sure how to respond to these comments in a professional and friendly manner.

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      I think you can directly, but respectfully say…”hey that kind of comment doesn’t make me feel good.” and that will let them know that their comment isn’t helpful, but damaging.

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      • Sabina says

        September 30, 2019 at 5:12 pm

        Hi Robyn … I’ve also been in the situation where someone comments on my body, say a weight loss. When I reply with something as you are saying, I’ve been met with “but it is a compliment, I’m complimenting you”. What do I do then? I would really like to know because at that point, I’m feeling so badly, I snap at the person.

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  3. Emily says

    November 1, 2017 at 10:11 am

    In love with all of this wise advice Robyn; it’s so true that you have to analyze how much you can handle if you want to push back against the diet talk. I think other girls are often encouraged when you do push back against it, because they realize that they want to break out of the diet talk too, but I have realized that there are places where I am weak and I have to kind of shut that off to protect my mental and emotional health. However I think that creating that anti diet bubble zone does really help strengthen the resolve to fight back against the diet talk and start a conversation about truly living in freedom and living to enjoy the food God has made and treating bodies gently as creations of God!

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      <3

      Reply
  4. Emily says

    November 1, 2017 at 10:12 am

    Filtering my Instagram and finding blogs like yours have been ways of really helping me create that ‘anti-diet’ bubble zone!

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      agreed about filtering social media!

      Reply
  5. Caitlyn says

    November 1, 2017 at 10:49 am

    I love this. Thanks for posting, Robyn. I took this idea to the extreme and actually wound up “breaking up” with my best friend at the time. We lived together and fed off (pun intended) each other’s disordered eating. It was one of the most painful things to do, but I know it was the right choice. We’ve tried to make amends, but she’s still very much stuck in a restrictive mindset. I also quit my job because I was working in a residential ED unit and found I was sliding back rapidly. I realize those examples sound selfish and dramatic, but I worked too long and too hard to recover. However, I also think it was good for me to be triggered in a sense–made me realize I still have a lot of work to do!

    Thanks for all you do!

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:12 pm

      That takes a lot of courage Caitlyn…good for you for advocating for yourself. <3

      Reply
  6. Abigail T says

    November 1, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    Great advice, Robyn! I found myself in a conversation about Whole30 and some people were just hearing about it for the first time and others were like “yeah I’ll probably do it again”. I just said “it seems like a ton of work to me”. I think diets are a ton of unnecessary and unhelpful work and probably saying “it seems too time consuming or stressful” will probably work for a lot of diet conversations.

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:11 pm

      I like that Abigail! and even adding “I think there are a lot of more meaningful things to spend our time on..”

      Reply
  7. Amy says

    November 1, 2017 at 2:41 pm

    I love this. I mentor women recovering from eating disorders and this is a topic they always ask me about. I’ll definitely be sending this post to them.

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:10 pm

      glad it will be helpful!

      Reply
  8. Heidi says

    November 1, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    Hey Robyn, thanks so much for another awesome post! Your blog is the most encouraging thing I’ve found on the internet, and I love that you share links to other helpful sites, too. Posts like this have literally turned my life around, from a girl who thought about her body 24/7, had a horribly mixed up relationship with food and a head full of hateful, e.d. thoughts…to a girl who actually has been putting peanut butter in her oatmeal (cooked with milk, a’course), and eating for pleasure in the company of friends (without worrying about what they’ll think, or how many calories this or that is), and who can see those (totally evil) calorie counts on restaurant menus and still pick the cheeseburger. It’s not perfect yet, but I’m gettin’ there.
    And obviously, the more I realize how destructive this whole diet-mindset is, the more I see it and hear it and break my heart over it…over all the people trapped in a life where their size and weight is The Most Important thing. The worst, for me, is when my friends say things (out of the blue) like, “now that I’m not a size — anymore, I can –“…or, “If I did –, I’d ruin my diet”, or, well, you’ve heard it all. It’s not direct body-bashing, it’s more like just bringing up weight and weight loss, exercise, dieting, almost like they’re trying to lead in to more “serious bashing”? I never know what to say when this happens!! Especially when someone is proud of themselves for losing a bunch of weight (not in an e.d. situation, necessarily). How can I be encouraging, and be a friend, and yet not support the idea that they’re better now that they’re smaller? As if!!!

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 2:10 pm

      Hi Heidi!! I’m so glad the blog has resonated with you so much – I’m so happy for your and your new found freedom <3

      These can be tricky..I think I would respond with something gentle like..."Hmm, would that happen? I don't think eating xyz would ruin anything..."

      Or if someone is proud for losing weight..."I think that's great that you feel good, but I love you the same at any size"

      Hope that helps!

      Reply
  9. Summer Rae says

    November 1, 2017 at 6:46 pm

    Robyn!!

    I love how God always gives us what we need to hear! I loved this whole post but one thing imparticular you said resonated with me and tugged at my heart, “Just because you use to participate in diet talk or body shaming doesn’t mean you have to today or in the future.” AMEN! This goes sooo much deeper than just diet talk… but, I appreciate you saying this. You are so inspiring and encouraging and I can tell how much you care that we truly hear your message here… your passion is catchy!! I sure hope you and Mr. Nick have a wonderful day – and thank you again.

    This side of Heaven,
    Summer Rae

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 1:30 pm

      Hi Summer! I’m so glad that resonated…for me realizing I can change at any point in time and that is OKAY and freeing. <3

      Reply
  10. Nicole @ Laughing My Abs Off says

    November 1, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    Lov this post, and was nodding along to every single point! You hit the nail on the head again, Robyn! For me, one of the biggest ways I’ve found to avoid it is honestly that I’ve unconsciously surrounded myself with a plethora of VERY normal eaters. Even my friends who lean toward eating “healthy” still treat themselves often and don’t let it become all-consuming. And when I do hear diety dialogue, I usually just say a short phrase that shows that I don’t agree with whatever they said and that maybe they should rethink. For instance, if someone says, I was so bad today, I had chocolate cake. I would say something like “that doesn’t make you bad! if you enjoyed the cake, you’re good because you treated your body!”

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 11:00 am

      Thanks for sharing Nicole! I think its really important to engage with normal eaters too – I know it’s so freeing for me as well!

      Reply
  11. emily vardy says

    November 2, 2017 at 6:04 am

    I used to be bad for jumping in and arguing with people when they started talking about their diets and nutrition and food rules, but I’ve toned it down a little lately. It’s not worth getting myself upset and angry – what they believe about food doesn’t have to affect me at all. I just tune them out (usually it’s in a group setting so I can stay quiet, unnoticed) and wait for a less stupid topic to come up

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 10:59 am

      That can be more helpful than creating a defensive debate 🙂 Diet culture is so mainstream!

      Reply
  12. Andrea says

    November 2, 2017 at 6:47 am

    I take a boxing class and the instructor planned a happy our outing after class one night last week. I went with my sister and we were naturally hungry for dinner and decided to order while waiting for others to come. My sister intuitively (she is just naturally an intuitive eater) ordered a salad because her body was craving veggies after a few days of not having them. I was pretty hungry and was craving a quesadilla. As soon as the instructor walked in to the happy hour he looked at my food and said, ugh you are eating that? Well I guess you worked out hard tonight. And then looked over at her salad. I was so stunned and like played it off like it was a funny joke and my sister stood up for me and was like yea she can eat whatever she wants. But I don’t think he even heard her. Unfortunately, I’ve been battling with an eating disorder/disorder eating & thinking since I was 13 years old. I am working so hard on learning about I.E./HAES but a comment like that was super triggering and it’s been hard to get past it.

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    • Robyn says

      November 2, 2017 at 10:58 am

      Andrea I’m so frustrated for you! I know those messages can be very triggering and feel like a set back. When I’ve encountered those comments, I try to have empathy for the person saying them and the internal struggle they are having with thoughts on food and dieting and realize they are projecting that onto me. I hope that is helpful! <3

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  13. Cindy says

    November 2, 2017 at 2:14 pm

    Love your blog. Love this post. I think I can use this in many other types of conversations/topics.
    This summer we visited Florence with 5 other couples,rented a large villa. It was not the best trip in terms of Table -time/meals. The Political climate was way over discussed.i really dislike all the disrespect towards our President. Many meals I excused myself and ate an energy bar in our room. Wished I had some of above to have helped me then. So happy for you and your husband on the next move. God Bless.

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  14. Traci says

    November 2, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    Love this post! I find myself in these scenarios often, and many of my friends are aware of my struggles (as I’ve become quite open about it). I tend to try to flip the conversation in its head – if a friend says something like “I can’t believe I just ate x amount of food.” I try to combat that guilty undertone by sharing how much energy that food will give them to get through the day, or how that food is simply fuel (our life source!)!without a good/bad connotation. I try to do this as early as possible before the conversation spirals! Thanks for the inspiration, as always.

    Traci

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    • Robyn says

      November 4, 2017 at 12:36 pm

      Love this idea Traci – I think that’s great!

      Reply
  15. Megan @ A Continual Feast says

    November 2, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Great post, Robyn! My favorite one has to be “you are not a sponge.” I finally learned that several years ago and it has been KEY in rejecting the diet mentality that is so pervasive in our culture. Love how you are always spreading awareness about this and empowering women to embrace who they are!

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    • Robyn says

      November 4, 2017 at 12:35 pm

      When I realized that too it was so helpful for me!

      Reply
  16. Trista says

    November 3, 2017 at 12:04 pm

    Thanks so much for following up my comment with a full blog post! This was wonderful. I saw it was shared on the Food Psych Podcast Facebook group too… clearly a topic many want to discuss! Thank you for feeding this conversation.
    Wishing you a wonderful weekend STAYING PUT!!!

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    • Robyn says

      November 4, 2017 at 12:34 pm

      Can’t wait to write it out! happy weekend to you too!

      Reply
  17. Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar says

    November 3, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    I love your thoughts on this, Robyn.
    It’s so hard to avoid diet culture. I’m pretty open about my history with an ED, but my students don’t know–appropriately, I think–and they not infrequently turn in papers about the “obesity epidemic” and how we should all eat paleo. I try not to slam them by pointing out a million logical fallacies in their arguments, but it’s hard sometimes. :S
    The relationships thing is hard. It’s hard when you know someone is trying to support you in your recovery and they’re not really succeeding.
    I like Daniela’s thoughts in her comment. Not that it’s necessarily productive to start a debate about diet culture but just say, “Hey. I’m sorry to hear you being so hard on yourself about what you ate/how you look/whether you worked out etc.”

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  18. Rebecca Coady says

    November 5, 2017 at 1:08 pm

    This came at the perfect time! In my MNT course a few weeks ago we discussed weight management and avoiding diet talking. It is hard to avoid it once you realize how often we all partake in negative diet talk. Your advice is great and I will try to incorporate it into my daily life moving forward. Thanks!

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    • Robyn says

      November 8, 2017 at 2:35 pm

      I’m glad it was helpful Rebecca!

      Reply
  19. Amber @ Bloom Nutrition Therapy says

    November 8, 2017 at 9:36 am

    This post is such a great reminder. Like you, until I really became awake to the idea of diet culture, I had no idea just how prevalent it was in almost every aspect of my life. And like others have mentioned, after wanting to change my own beliefs, it became difficult to navigate through conversations that turned to diet talk and diet culture. However, I have learned that by living my life as I believe now, others have started to comment positively. Many have approached me and thanked me for sharing my beliefs because they feel, “other women need to hear it, too.” I don’t think we realize just how ingrained diet culture is, especially for women. If it were our religious beliefs or affiliation, I think we would feel much more comfortable in setting a boundary there, and perhaps even sharing with others the reason for our beliefs. We would feel confident to withdraw ourselves from conversations that don’t align with our personal religious beliefs because this is socially acceptable and almost expected. Why does it feel so difficult to do so when it comes to our body? Our food? Our physical and mental health? Just like everything else in life, with practice, coping with diet talk can become something we value in ourselves enough to learn how to set boundaries for it.

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  20. Amber says

    October 21, 2020 at 6:58 am

    I experienced intense diet culture chat last night, i felt confident enough to respond with an answer and stand up for my beliefs only to have finished what I was saying and for the other friend to continue the debate. I then realised I wasn’t able to proceed with the conversation and had to shut it down aggressively which created some awkwardness. It’s been on my mind all day and I did a google search to know how to navigate these conversations and this was the first article to pop up. Thank you! It’s a great summary of how to navigate these awkward situations. I know now my gut feeling told
    Me setting the boundary was the right thing to do, but it’s hard to stand up to friends sometimes. I wish I wasn’t having to always set the boundaries with them but unfortunately it’s the culture we are in.

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🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 two babies are asleep at the same time in their beds (and not on me) for the FIRST TIME IN 7657 DAYS and dear lord I could cry tears of relief straight into this latte and bowl of chocolate chips bc I woke up this morning exhausted and weary and told Nick I didn’t want to parent today 🤣 Not even calling this self care. It’s sanity right now. And even if it lasts 5 minutes it will be 5 minutes of freaking glory. p.s. yes that brick is crooked bc v uneven floors are part of the charmed package of this old house
Learning over and over again in this season that f Learning over and over again in this season that feels unsettled and chaotic and longgggggg that sometimes, you just need the viewpoint of a toddler to remind you that the seemingly insignificant things & moments really are....straight up magical. And that yes, these mundane days are packed full of goodness & beauty if I keep my eyes fixed on what actually matters.
Spent two hours at Lowe’s this morning and wow, Spent two hours at Lowe’s this morning and wow, wowww 🤯 Asked at least six people where to find something and their opinion on all the options bc holy decision fatigue. Nursed my newborn on the floor of the paint aisle. And BLESS my new contractor friend Matt I found in the lumber section that pushed my cart around and helped me avoid the mistake of buying exterior wood for some DIY bathroom shelves.
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I’m giving all our bathrooms a DIY makeover and I couldn’t be more of a rookie. So shoutout to all my Lowe’s buddies and YouTube 😜 You’re making this happen.
We are now officially homeowners. WUT? We didn’t We are now officially homeowners. WUT? We didn’t plan to close on a house 10 weeks after having a baby, but here we are. And we are so, so grateful.  And I’m also terrified. We’ve moved three times and lived in three different states since we got married three years ago. After six years spent living in New York City and Boston, moving back to Charlottesville was really, really hard for me. I cried a lot those first six months because my heart ached for the northeast and for city life. I wanted to pack up and go back to Boston ASAP. It felt so different and so quiet here and at times, very lonely. Even though it felt like the next right step, I second guessed our decision A LOT.
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But here we are 10 months later ready to continue investing in this neighborhood we’ve come to love. And this community of people that have become so dear. Ten months later and it feels so, so right. And although committing to settling down here for a good bit feels really scary to me, it also brings so much peace to know we aren’t moving again anytime soon. We are here to plant and grow. And raise our babies in this house as we make it a home. It’s also really fun to have one of your best friends be your realtor. We love you @kelli.teter.nesting 🤗
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Now, to see if we make it out of this kitchen renovation all in one piece 🤪
my go-to breakfast these days is two fried eggs in my go-to breakfast these days is two fried eggs in ghee with sautéed spinach (also in ghee) and an english muffin with more ghee + some sort of jam on half for that sweet & savory combo. we discovered these local english muffins (from The Bread Basket) and they are doughy and delicious and we are obsessed.
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I’ve found that I need a solid source of protein and lots of fat for breakfast to keep me full while breastfeeding this time around vs with Cal, I was so into big bowls of pb & chocolate chip banana oatmeal. just goes to show our bodies know what they need and change cravings accordingly. also, just a psa: go pick up the maple butter from @traderjoes bc it is bonkers 🤤 and lastly, shout out to my husband bc a lot of mornings he is making this bfast for me while I nurse & try to pull myself out of bed - don’t for a moment think I’ve got it together 🤪
I’ve had many thoughts rolling around in my brai I’ve had many thoughts rolling around in my brain of if/how to use this platform in a way that aligns with how I want to live my life. I’m finding it tricky to discern that when 90% of my use on this app is for professional purposes. But I’m not sure if even professionally, it makes sense for me. Because I feel more aligned with what matters to me when I’m not regularly present here.  I’m not really sure what things will look like moving forward, but for right now I’m here to share with you that I somehow found some spare minutes between newborn & toddler life to write a post with some semi-coherent thoughts on life lately. 🤪 You can head there by clicking the link in my profile.
I’ve been completely disconnected from social me I’ve been completely disconnected from social media and that’s been vital for me during this tender postpartum period of transitioning from a mama of 1 to 2. But today, I’m bopping on briefly to share how Teddy entered this wild world with you - if you’re into a lengthy, detailed birth story, the link in my profile will lead you to the blog post 💙
Theodore “Teddy” Lars Nohling joined our famil Theodore “Teddy” Lars Nohling joined our family at 12:48am on Wednesday after a quick and swift labor & birth at home 💙 Thank you Father for another healthy baby boy & your abundant, tender love for us. What an undeserved gift.
Very grateful to be carrying another baby past his Very grateful to be carrying another baby past his due date, but also....LET’S GO DUDE. Still over here eating dates (check out the @ebbirth article on the research showing dates can help ripen (aka soften) your cervix, reduce the need for medical intervention in labor and can overall, improve birth outcomes) drinking red raspberry leaf tea and sleeping as much as possible with a 19 month old running around. And also trying to survive July in VA without public pools or splash pads bc it is BLAZIN HERE (and I’m a wuss with the heat 🤪)

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